Comments on from IF to when: who are we to judge?

This is a great post. I am somewhere in the middle...

2011-12-24T12:01:13.944-06:00

This is a great post. I am somewhere in the middle. I don't think we should judge quickly or without reason, but as social creatures we are vulnerable to the thoughts and opinions of those around us. Re: Kim Kardashian - I judge her because I feel like her actions cheapen the idea of commitment and marriage. Yes, she made a mistake and she is human, but she also used incredibly poor judgement

Wouldn't it be nice if there was a rule book f...

2011-12-24T08:00:14.657-06:00

Wouldn't it be nice if there was a rule book for life? nother great post - thanks for writing it.

I totally agree. We set standards for out won beha...

2011-12-23T12:51:06.909-06:00

I totally agree. We set standards for out won behavior, and then judge others according to our own personal standard. But the fact remains, that we never know the whole story. As for what anonymous said, yes, there is a time and place for people's actions to be judged, and it's called a courtroom. Even there, a judge and jury are responsible for making a balanced decision based on the

Excellent post. Excellent discussion. @Anonymous...

2011-12-23T08:33:39.635-06:00

Excellent post. Excellent discussion.

@Anonymous: I guess the point is that you should reserve judgement until you have the full story. If you don't have the full story, you can't make an accurate judgement. You can only make a prejudiced judgement. (It's a prevailing theme in life. See the movie Rashomon)

I understand where you're coming from - people

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2011-12-23T06:36:06.231-06:00

Looks like you made the Friday Roundup! Great Job. :)

I think this is a great point. You never know what...

2011-12-22T20:46:22.865-06:00

I think this is a great point. You never know what battle that person is facing today. It's a simple matter of treat others the way you want to be treated. Thank you for reminding us!

I agree. Excellent post. I too am guilty of judge...

2011-12-21T22:10:59.760-06:00

I agree. Excellent post. I too am guilty of judgement when doing something as simple as reading someone else's blog. I hate that I judge. I feel that as I have grown older (and more wise I hope!) I judge less, and I hope others judge me less as well.
Everyone has their cross to bear...just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't there. I am trying to remember that

A very interesting post. And, yes, it is so hard ...

2011-12-21T14:29:20.872-06:00

A very interesting post. And, yes, it is so hard not to judge others by the standards we have set for ourselves without knowing anything about what they are going through. A good reminder to live and let live.

Katie, I totally agree with you (and Mel). Inferti...

2011-12-21T11:37:21.161-06:00

Katie, I totally agree with you (and Mel). Infertility has also taught me to be a lot less judgemental. You really never do know what goes on behind closed doors, and you certainly never know what's going on with someone's BODY. Hell, I don't even know WTH is going on with mine half the time; it's certainly not my business how others deal with theirs!
And sure...there need

I'm going to respond to anonymous (and since t...

2011-12-21T10:11:54.572-06:00

I'm going to respond to anonymous (and since this is a flat medium and you can't hear my tone, I want it said beforehand that I'm curious and questioning and not berating): should we establish standards when no one else is affected? For instance, with the Kardashians, guests at her wedding may be annoyed, and yes, our actions always affect others to an extent, but do we need to set

So, no matter what... it's ok! I don't lik...

2011-12-21T10:10:20.073-06:00

So, no matter what... it's ok! I don't like that attitude. Respect the difference? Someone thinks or acts differently so that's good? A lot of times it is but what if it's wrong? What if it's not good for society? Should we just ignore or even respect it? so dumb

Infertility has taught me not to judge. You never...

2011-12-21T10:09:45.500-06:00

Infertility has taught me not to judge. You never know what's going on in someones life behind the scenes and you never know how you would handle the situation unless you are in it.

Great post, Katie. I love that quote: "Be ki...

2011-12-21T09:45:05.870-06:00

Great post, Katie. I love that quote: "Be kind; for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." It's so true. You have no idea what someone else is going through or what past ghosts they're fighting.

This is such a great post, Katie . . . it reads li...

2011-12-21T09:43:38.417-06:00

This is such a great post, Katie . . . it reads like a magazine article. I'm talked to my husband about this very topic, because I'm starting to learn that it's ok to have friends who have different lifestyle choices than I do -- for example, people who drink a lot more than I do, or people who aren't super-sensitive like me. Not everyone has to be like me in order to be my friend

When I was about 13 I bought a postcard, it's ...

2011-12-21T09:11:47.388-06:00

When I was about 13 I bought a postcard, it's wording has been carried in my heart ever since. Sometimes I get it better than others but it is how I try to live.

'Respect the difference'

You don't always have to agree or understand but whilst we have respect we remain on the right path.

Katie, I whole heartedly agree with this post. And...

2011-12-21T08:59:04.394-06:00

Katie, I whole heartedly agree with this post. And you are right- our blogs open us to criticism and judgement. Even in our own IF clique, we turn against each other, judge eachother and rear our ugly heads. I too have learned with age that people have a right to live the life they chose (or live by default) either way- its their choice. And not everybody agrees with my choices or yours, but its

Here's my one problem about your post. I guess...

2011-12-21T08:53:15.028-06:00

Here's my one problem about your post. I guess this is mostly in terms of Kim.... it's important to judge so that we convey and establish standards. The whole "live and let live" theme is why people don't even know what's right from wrong. I don't judge people personally but I do judge their actions and I think it's important for society to do so.