Monday, October 22, 2012

hanging on

This is a baby-related post. Please feel free to skip if you are not comfortable reading.

We had a busy weekend filled with a 5k walk, college football, and a visit to a local pumpkin patch - fun times with family and friends. The next two weekends are also jam packed, and I'm finding myself at a loss for how to manage my free time. Work is WORK from the time I get to my desk until the time I leave, and I don't want to do any more of it when I get home (including work around the house). Everything from blogging to freelance has sort of been thrown to the side.

Part of me wants to make a "don't do anything on the weekends except play catch up" vow from the beginning of November until the new year, but I also know that's impossible with the holidays coming up. Holidays = more visiting with family and friends, more holiday parties, etc. Not that any of those are bad things, but I'm starting to wonder when this house is going to get a thorough cleaning. Or when I'm going to get to the rest of my thank-you notes. Or when I'm going to shave my legs again (yeah, I went there).

I wish there were more hours in the day to get things done. But, since that isn't likely to happen, I'm focusing on spending as much time as I can with K. I keep reminding myself that this is likely it. This will be our only child, and this will be the only chance I get to spend with her as a baby. Someone at work put it perfectly: "You can't bottle it up and save it." No, I can't. So, as much as I wish life wasn't as hectic, and as much as I want to get more sleep, I can't say I'm not appreciating these moments.

I'm just drinking a lot more caffeine - and spending a lot less time on my hair!


Melissa G said...

I hope this doesn't come off wrong, and I know that finances can be tricky, but can I suggest one thing? Housekeeping.

I know it seems like an extravagant thing to spend your money on, but realistically it's equal to a couple of nice dinners out. Just once per month to do the detail cleanings, so instead of scrubbing toilets, and cleaning floors, or beating yourself up for not scrubbing toilets and cleaning floors - you can spend that time catching up on other stuff and spending it with your wonderful hubby and miracle baby. :)

Just a thought.

Glass Case of Emotion said...

I am facing the same issues these days and trying to savor it too! Every weekend gets packed! What I try to do now is go out one night during the work week once or twice a month... and then try to not book anything one whole day of the weekend. It's hard though! And laundry and cleaning are what takes a backseat, for sure!

JustHeather said...

I'm starting to understand those sentiments. I haven't returned to work yet, but I was already thinking about what I might miss when it happens. Definitely enjoying it while I can.

If you figure out how to get more hours on a day, let me know too, please?

Alex said...

Ugh - the work life parent battle. I hate it, choosing the hours I spend in what place. Yep, I'm foregoing hair time, and cleaning house time, and shaving legs time (not necessary in the fall/winter! :) ) for Alex time. It's tough. Hang in there!!!

someday-soon said...

I hear ya...I've been tired for a solid 2.5 years *LOL* Priorities are what it's all about...I always hear the saying "they are only babies once" and rolled my eyes but it became clear that's a wise thing to say to myself each and every day =)

Rachel said...

Find yourself a trick to keep yourself motivated. If I know I need to do chores, I don't take my shoes off when I get home. If I need my wife to do chores, I invite company over. Miss K learns from watching you, and being close to you. Strapping her to your chest and doing laundry or vacuuming is as good as any play.

Andrea said...

Hello, I occasionally peek in your blog, but have never commented, I just felt compeled as a (very) full time working mom to a one year old. I can totally relate to seeing everything go on the wayside. My standards of "clean" have been significantly lowered (not too low), but it just doesn't matter to me. I just tend to tidy up a bit during the week, laundry waits until the weekend. Dishes wait until after baby has gone to bed. Meals are either leftovers, or premade heat and eat prepared on the weekends. Its true, looking back, you won't say "Thankfully, I cleaned out that pantry regularly", I just try to make it livable.

Parenthood for Me said...

I have come to realize that my house will not be really clean for at least five more years.

Dawn said...

It gets easier as you find your routine. I have some clean the house once a month. Best money spent. I still have to clean, but knowing I get a deep clean once a month takes the pressure off.

Preemie Mama said...

My little one is 5. She was born 3 months early had a 61 day NICU stay. I heard this ditty when she was young, and I still cling to it:

"Cleaning and dusting can wait till tomorrow,
For babies grow up, we've learned to our sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep.
I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."

I've learned to live with a messier house than I would like. Sometimes it kills me, but my daughter is only each age for an instance. We fought for these, and I will enjoy them. When she doesn't want me to rock her or color with her, my house will again be clean. Enjoy every minute. :)