Tuesday, July 5, 2011

reflections on Casey Anthony

Not guilty.

Not guilty.

Not guilty.

I shook listening to the jury acquit Casey Anthony of all charges this afternoon.

HOW? Okay, I know how. Reasonable doubt. The 12 men and women on a jury of her peers did not feel that the evidence was strong enough to convict her of anything tying her to the murder of her daughter - whether accidental or intentional. That's it, and we have to accept that. That's the way our judicial system works.

It's a good thing I wasn't a jury member. We would have had a hung jury. A mistrial. There is no way I could have walked out of that jury room without convicting her of SOMETHING. Maybe not Murder 1. But something. There was no reasonable doubt for me. You don't just have your daughter one day and not have her the next. You don't just lie and drink and party and screw guys and get tattoos when your daughter is missing or killed. You don't unless you are guilty. It's just that simple.

For me, at least.

I'm sad. I'm ashamed. Mostly, I'm just disgusted. There will never be justice. There will never be closure. There will never be a resolution.

It's not fair.

I talk about fairness a lot when it comes to infertility, and this very much relates. It's not fair that a woman can care so little about her own child, murder her, and walk away. It's not fair that while she go free, her daughter is dead. It's not fair that some of us want so badly to be mothers and others will so easily give up that gift.

My heart hurts tonight.

It hurts for the Anthony family. No matter how much you spin it, they are victims in this, too. They will never see that little girl again, and they will never get answers about her death.

Mostly, though, it hurts for Caylee. Here was a little girl who was so innocent and loveable - taken from us far too soon. She never got the chance she deserves. She never got the parenting she deserves. And now we know she will never get the justice she deserves.

I'll end with what I wrote on Facebook after the verdict. As someone who can't have children, it makes me sick to see a mother murder her own child and get away with it. Prison might not be in Casey Anthony's future, but I hope hell is.

24 comments:

One Cycle at a Time said...

Thank you for putting into words all the things I've been feeling since I heard the verdict. Its ridiculous that she's going to be able to walk away, which is more than her daughter is able to do. Its so unfair that any of us in the IF blogosphere would give ANYTHING to have a chance at a miracle and she threw hers away in the woods. Ugh! I'm so sick about it.

Marybeth said...

Thanks for writing this. It's exactly how I feel. It would have been a hung jury with me too. I thought she should have gotten manslaughter. I thought the state proved that beyond a reasonable doubt. I hate to think the jury was burnt out and took the easy way out. It sucks there will be no justice for Caylee

Michelle said...

Great post. I agree with you 100%. I'm completely heart broken and baffled as to how those 12 jurors could find her completely innocent. Poor Caylee.
I hope so much that Casey never ever has children again, although I don't have much faith that that will be the case.

unaffected said...

I agree. I just feel so sad for little Caylee. And it sickens me to think Casey Anthony will probably go on to have another child someday. The unfairness of it all is breathtaking.

~C~ said...

Well, actually, you wouldn't have had a snowball's chance of making it on the jury in the first place. That opinion would've gotten you out in voir dire ;-)

The entire saga is just so sad, and so tragic, and so unnecessary. And pretty rage-inducing. But I'm only mad at her, for what she did. I'm actually quite impressed with the jury and their ability to follow the law.

PCOSChick said...

You know, like you I was totally addicted. There is no way I could have been on that jury & had what happened today happen. I am so sick over this. In a country where some states are trying to charge women who miscarry with murder something is VERY wrong. How can those women be held accountable for something out of their control & this monster, who knows good & well what she did walk away?! Something is so very wrong!

So many of us would have loved to have a child like Caylee. If she did not want that baby, plenty of woman would have...I can only hope, one day the truth comes out & Caylee can finally rest in peace...oh & karma is a bitch!!

Jo said...

Well said! I posted a similar FB status today, though not so eloquent as yours.

Stefanie Blakely said...

I cried as I read your tweets this afternoon-- the one about how millions of mothers would have treated Caylee better than her own just pushed me over the edge. What a devastating day for so many people.

Logical Libby said...

I just pray Caylee is in a safe place, and know Casey will never be.

AnotherDreamer said...

I agree, I saw the news from your tweet actually... I still can't believe it. I thought the jury would have debated longer or something, it came back way too quickly. I don't really see any way that she's not guilty- it's messed up.

Anita Bell said...

Why if millions of people feel she was guilty, why did the jurors deliberate for such a short time deciding on the not guilty verdict so easily? Makes you wonder what in the world went wrong. Maybe there should be a minimum IQ for being on a jury! AND, they may not be compelled to comment, but I think it is cowardly not to explain themselves to the outraged public!

Maria said...

Absolutely baffling

Marla said...

It's disgusting! My husband explained it best to me, though, that we are a people that now demand scientific evidence, thanks to shows like CSI. Circumstantial evidence means diddly, and that blows sometimes. I would've hung that jury too. In fact, I'd still like to hang them, if you get my drift. Sigh! :*(

Keiko said...

I won't repeat what so many others have said in the comments above, but I hear you and I understand your anger because I feel it myself too.

The world is incredibly and indiscriminately unfair indeed.

Dawn said...

I still cannot believe it. I can't wait to hear what the jury was thinking. I think that once they hear all of the information we have been hearing they will regret their decision. Sadly, it's too late. I think it would be so hard to live with that.

She is the poster child for unfair to people that suffer from IF. This verdict just takes it to the next lever, which I didn't think could ever happen.

"His Perfect Timing" said...

Love your last comment that you put on facebook! :)

Jennifer said...

I came across your blog through another blog. I totally agree with your post. I can not believe that she will not be serving any time for the disappearance and death of her daughter. I do not believe that Casey was ever a Mother.

Tammy said...

I was wondering how you were feeling about this. I was so upset and angry, too. I couldn't even stand to see Casey's face on TV -- she just LOOKS guilty. It was like OJ all over again. She's obviously guilty of SOMETHING, and something is wrong with our justice system if she's getting away with 4 years, tops. It's absolutely horrible.

Courtney said...

I believe Caylee will have justice. True justice goes beyond the courtroom. Whoever harms and/or helps harm a child does not live unscathed.

I believe in that because I know Karma is a bitch and she plays for keeps.

Keiko said...

Just gave this post a shout-out on my blog; both you and JJiraffe over at Tooo Many Fish To Fry just got me thinking about everything so much I couldn't NOT write about it. Post is here: Unnatural Act, Unspeakable Crime.

Kelly said...

I have had a hard time putting my feelings about this into any kind of coherent words. I had a feeling that she would walk away from this. I also had a feeling that I would just feel sick when that happened. I look at my big baby girl, who's almost 19, and my small baby girl who just turned 5, and just hug them tight.

I also wish that I could hug Caylee tight, too.

Whitney Anderson said...

Great post and I love the FB comment.

Ashley said...

LOVE THIS POST. I sat there, watching my tv, eagerly waiting to hear that guilty verdict, and was physically sick to hear that the woman got off with basically nothing. It's a screwed up world we live in. And don't even get me started on the article that People magazine did about how she wants more children. I have a feeling that when she is released back into society she is going to find out that she was safer in jail.

gailcanoe said...

Wow, your closing statement said it perfectly. I've been wrangling with how I feel about this case and feel that the blame should be placed on the prosecution because they didn't present a tough-enough case against Casey. But, I know in my gut that she did it and that has sickened me for the past few days. But, your words are just as true for me.
"As someone who can't have children, it makes me sick to see a mother murder her own child and get away with it. Prison might not be in Casey Anthony's future, but I hope hell is."