Saturday, November 30, 2013

family day

It's hard to believe that one year ago today, we sat in front of a judge and promised that we would care for our daughter forever. That act, those words, seemed so simple. We'd already cared for her for months. To us, she was already ours. But it was different when we made it official. It made it seem that much more real.

I don't "celebrate" this day. Celebrating isn't the right act. Instead, I use this day to reflect. I reflect on our time together. I reflect on K's birth mother and her entire first family. And I wonder what the future will bring for all of us.

If you've adopted, do you do anything special to honor the day you "officially" became a family? Why or why not?

4 comments:

dspence said...

Happy belated family day!

awomanmyage said...

No, I can`t say we do. Our final adoption papers came in the mail, so it`s not like we knew the actual day when it was official. It was still wonderful to actually see it in print though and we did have a cake that said Forever. We don`t commemorate the day though.

someday-soon said...

Happy family day! Can't believe it's been a year already...

Geochick said...

We celebrated with family when our adoption became final. Last year we used it as an excuse have a family outing. This year, we haven't even really discussed it. At first, I wanted to mark this day with a family outing , eventually turning into an activity of Baby X's choice, but I'm not sure if I want to continue celebrating a day that is positive for my husband and I, but represents grief for both Baby X and C.