Tuesday, June 11, 2013

packed away

I've been packing away baby clothes for months now. I sort them into two piles: keep and give away. I keep anything that has some sort of sentimental value to me. I don't know why. They are just "things" and I have absolutely no intention of getting to use them again (having another baby), but I save them anyway. The rest is going to charity - an organization that, ironically, helps pregnant women in crisis.

I think it confuses people that I save some of K's clothes, despite being 99.9% certain we will not have another child. Part of me wishes that I could let go of them. After all, it's not like we're drowning in unused space in our townhouse. Yet, I can't help it. I can't bear to part with the outfit she came home in from the hospital. The preemie onsies she wore in the NICU. Her first Christmas dress. What she wore on Mother's Day. Getting rid of those items feels like giving away those memories.

So, I pack them away instead - in my closet and in my heart. Maybe those items will do nothing but collect dust. But maybe K will get to pass them down to her daughter someday.

Maybe they will create future memories for our family.

11 comments:

manymanymoons said...

The outfits that my mom gave to me from when I was a baby mean so much. I think it's great that you are saving them. She will love having them someday!

gailcanoe said...

You could also look into making a quilt of your favorite outfits. I know that I've been keeping old t-shirts to do the same thing. Or, you could get a memory box frame and hang an outfit on the wall. But,I don't think there is anything wrong with keeping items that have sentimental value.

It Is What It Is said...

I'm not sure why you feel there is anything wrong with this, even if you were 100% sure you weren't going to have another.

We will NOT be having another baby and I am saving a scant few of Baby Gs things. Just as we showed his big brother what was his as a baby when I pulled them out of storage for G, I want G to see them, too. And, it makes my heart happy to see them, so why not. At then end of our lives, all we'll have is our memories.

(PS I see you added a Name/Url identity for comments, yay!).

Guillemette said...

I do exactly the same.... Sometimes I tell myself that after so many years of infertility I got cheated of the joy of prepping for all the baby things... It was too painful to have baby things around... So I indulge in it now... Every time I pack more things away, I look through the pile and relive the memories and also purge a bit more....:)
So indulge....enjoy...

JustHeather said...

I have no idea if we'll be able to have a 2nd or not, but I too am saving some things. For me, it is in the hopes that maybe my little guy (his future partner) will appreciate that I've saved these things for him. I know that I have loved dressing my guy in things me and my siblings have worn and even my hubby and his siblings have worn.

dspence said...

Even though I was POSITIVE I would not have any more children, I still kept so many of Little K's outfits and favorite toys. They are precious memories!

And, of course, now that we're cycling I'm grateful for the chance to bring them out again.

Rae said...

I saved every outfit I had my son's professional pics made in, plus some of my favorite daily clothes that he wore as an infant. I have one dress my mom saved from when I was a toddler. It was one that I wore in a photo. I love that she saved it and I knew I would do the same when/if I ever had a baby. Like you, I am 99.9% sure that my son will be our one & only.

missohkay said...

I do the same! We save more clothes than just the sentimental ones in case we do have another girl, but I have a box full of the sentimental ones segregated that will not be given away and it includes her Mother's Day dress, the outfit we first dressed her in, etc.

aryanhwy said...

I don't know why. They are just "things" and I have absolutely no intention of getting to use them again (having another baby), but I save them anyway.

One reason to save them is to give them to K when she grows up! Now that I have a child of my own, my mom has been pulling out dresses that she has been saving from my childhood. Last Christmas Gwen wore a dress we have photos of me wearing at Thanksgiving the same age. Last month, she wore to a wedding a dress mom had handmade for me. I look forward to her growing older and getting to wear more that have been saved for so many years.

Rach said...

I have a few outfits as well! Home from the hospital, a NB onesie, and a sleep gown. I also kept her baptism gown. I hate getting rid of her clothes as well. But my husband always tells me to remember I get to buy more cute clothes in bigger sizes, lol.

someday-soon said...

You can get all of those made into a beautiful mother's quilt one day. I am doing the same thing...some things are just too fantastic to get rid of =)