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Thursday, January 3, 2013

what's new with 2013?

1. Well, we didn't go over the fiscal cliff. And Congress made the adoption tax credit permanent, which is great. But they didn't make it refundable, and the Family Act was not considered as part of the deal. The good news is that a new session is starting soon, so maybe they will all get their heads on straight and pass some legislation that is meaningful to those of us fighting infertility. Please make sure that you contact your Senators and Representatives, and urge them to 1. support the Family Act and 2. make the Adoption Tax Credit refundable.

2. This will be the year of ultrasound parties. Creepy.

3. Just before the New Year, Russia banned all adoptions to the United States. I am incredibly sad over the decision to make orphans pawns in this political chess game. But I'm more upset reading the reaction from Americans who believe that we shouldn't be adopting children from other countries in the first place. Take, for example, the letter to the editor published in my local paper yesterday. (Don't worry. I responded.) It must be the same group of people who think that infertiles should "just adopt" and "save the children."

4. The Creme de la Creme of 2012 is up! Go read some of last year's most amazing posts. Mine is number 61. Thank you so much to Mel for doing this for our community each year.

and last, a personal note:

5. Danica turned 4 years old on January 1, and K turned 6 months old on the 2nd. Both of my girls are growing up. I have a 6-month update for K half written, and I promise to have that posted soon. Overall, things are going well and our family is looking forward to what 2013 has to offer. :)

7 comments:

Elizabeth said...

Ultrasound parties? blech! That's as bad as ultrasound pictures as Christmas cards. :/ I am so glad for the adoption tax credit continuing! I finally feel like we will be able to get a sibling for our son. :)

Lollipop Goldstein said...

Happy 2013!

I also saw the piece on ultrasound parties and it reminded me to Tom Cruise and his ultrasound machine for Katie.

Gurlee said...

OMG- that is all sorts of wrong. U/S parties, wth?

I would love to see your letter to the editor, sounds like a perfect time to educate!

Yay for the adoption credit and Congratulations, Happy New Year!

Katie said...

Below was my response to the letter:

While I agree with the author (Diane) that there are plenty of children in our country's foster care system who need homes, I don't agree with the implication that children in the United States are somehow more deserving or in need of a family than those overseas. The foster care system in this country works much differently than in other parts of the world. Here, we give birth parents ample opportunity to prove to child services that they can and will care for their child(ren), which means that the process to adopt a child from foster care can take years and has a far greater risk of disruption. The living conditions for children in our foster care system overall exceed those who live in orphanages in other countries. In addition, the cost to adopt a child from the United States can greatly outweigh adopting a child from overseas, depending on the country.

But beyond this, adoption and where a couple chooses to adopt from should be a personal choice. It is certainly not an easy decision or one that couples who choose to adopt make lightly. I know because my husband and I made it in late 2011. Ultimately, we chose to adopt domestically. We are and forever will be grateful for the gift of our daughter, but the experience was financially, mentally, and emotionally taxing. I respect everyone who has gone through the process, domestically or internationally, and I deeply sympathize with the heartbreak that so many families are experiencing after this decision by the Russian government.

missohkay said...

Perfect response in your letter to the editor, as I've come to expect from you :)

Logical Libby said...

Ultrasound parties? Ugh. The ultimate of "pregnant women are smug."

Geochick said...

Ultrasound parties...ew.

I really didn't think they would make the tax credit permanent with all the "cutting spending" talk, but I'm glad it's at least in there. It'll be interesting to see if we hit the wall with it. Now, if we could only get the rest of the tax credit from our re-filed 2010 taxes, I could start worrying about the next round!