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Friday, March 2, 2012

dear anonymous commenters

I am so disgusted by your recent outbreak of negativity, not only on my blog, but on others. Everyone has their own opinion on infertility and/or adoption. That's fine. But enough with writing things that are completely untrue and, in some cases, incredibly offensive. What set me over the edge? The person who implied on my previous post that Snooki behaves the way she does because she's adopted.

Believe me, I'm the first person to stand up and defend the right to free speech. But guess what. This is my blog, which means that I have the freedom to censor your speech.

I never thought I would have to do this, but from this point forward, I will delete any profane or offensive comments toward IFers, adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees. If it comes down to it, I'll place the comment moderation on. What I won't have is people spewing their hatred and lies all over my blog. You want to be an asshole? You want to talk about how awful you think adopted kids grow up to be or how you think infertile people are whiny assholes? Then go start a blog about it.

Until then, stay the hell off mine.

20 comments:

Elizabeth said...

Hear, hear! If you are going to write rude things, you better have the courage to put your name on it!

Glass Case of Emotion said...

I am getting really really sick of comments about "what adoptive people are like" or "how birth mothers feel" or "what it's like to be adopted"- there is no universal case or experience. Certainly, there are bad stories. But to me, it would be basing what sort of skin color they have- it's wrong. Do all asians have the same personality? What about white people? Or black people? We don't group all of those groups into one lump sum to talk about them, do we? And if we do, you get in trouble for it. But for some reason, it's okay with anyone in the adoptive triad. Makes me so mad! Ugh!

Elizabeth said...

Well said! I am so sorry you are having to deal with this (along with everything else you have going on!) UGH!

It Is What It Is said...

Touche! People with asshole opinions that troll blogs to spew their brand of hatred are the lowest of the low.

KeAnne said...

Good for you!

Whitney Anderson said...

Sorry you are having this problem on your blog with all of the ignorant morons. Good for you though for censoring. I would and have.

Danielle said...

Clearly Rush Limbaugh is trolling IF blogs, now.

Cowardly anonymous commenters can suck it. That is all.

pex said...

I have never commented on your blog, but I have been reading for a year. You go! You go on spreading the truth for those unable to be as public with their struggles. You go.

Leslie said...

I am sorry that this has happened. Your blog is your blog and people are so insensitive. Hope that this stops and people can respect your thoughts!!

Courtney said...

WELL SAID!!!! So freaking sick of the haters!

c said...

I agree that it was horrible what every one was saying about Snooki on the other post.

As for this:

"And Snooki can suck it. Actually, if she had she probably wouldn't be pregnant..."

Whoa - that is nasty.

c said...

I agree with Glass Case of Emotions - only adoptive parents and PAPs really have any idea about how birthparents and adoptees really feel.

I do agree though that we are all different and that we shouldn't be lumped together eg, it is amazing how many people consider those that feel that adoption needs major reform to be "angry" and not worth listening to. So definitely, those people should take a leaf from your book and actually listen to what people say rather than what they think they are saying.

kristin simich said...

Good post girl! You are right, everyone is entitled to their opinion. That said, some people need to try something new and keep it to themselves!! I'm opinionated, but i also keep very quiet! Ignorance MSN't bliss for the rest of us dealing with you. Think before you speak and know one thing haters: you are probably the only one who thinks your opinion matters and we don't want to hear it!

kristin simich said...

Sorry for spelling errors, I'm on mobile!

mommyodyssey said...

Hear hear!
With all of the comment love I got in the last week and a half, I got one comment that was so upsetting and ugly that I not only had to turn on full moderation, I actually asked some friends to moderate comments for me for a while.
I'm comforting myself by saying that some people may just use the the forum to dump their own anger and bitterness onto the world.
We use our forum to try to make some beauty out of the pain we go through. Some people just can't seem to find beauty. I feel sorry for them.

Turtle Hope said...

It is such a great responsibility to be a voice for IF. I understand why you would let some negativity slide. This negativity is our natural environment and how we have learned to survive but you have to draw the line somewhere. I've been reading you long enough to know whatever decision you make, is the right one. Good for you! I have to chuckle... Somebody compared me to Snooki the other day (completely unrelated to infertility) and I almost tore her face off;/ Like I said, you have to draw the line somewhere.

Rebecca said...

I will never understand why people get joy from spreading nastiness.

missohkay said...

You go!

Kelly said...

Good for you, totally in your corner.

Geochick said...

You go girl!