Wednesday, February 29, 2012

that whole infertility thing

Oh, hey there. Remember me? I blog about infertility. Occasionally. Except for when I'm talking about my boobs (going to see the boobie specialist on March 12 - woo!). Or adoption (I refuse to address the continued, negative comments about the tax credit). Or my vacation (8 MORE DAYS).

Yes, here I am. Katie, the infertile. Sometimes, I forget that I'm infertile. Then people make stupid comments. Or I find out that someone I know is pregnant for the umpteen zillionth time, most likely conceiving while on birth control or at least not while trying. That's when I'm reminded - yet again - that my body doesn't work. And it never will.

So, what's up with infertility these days?

1. In case you've missed it, Snooki is pregnant. Yes. The small, orange, loud mouth, Italian chick who ISN'T from Jersey. She's having a baby, and she's approximately 12 weeks along - according to reports. Which means that, unless a miracle occurs, Snooki will be a mom before me.

2. The Pope hates IVF babies. Or, basically, any babies not conceived between a husband and wife. If you attempt any type of conception that is considered a form of ART, he'd like you to know that you're arrogant. Yes, that's exactly why we did 4 IUIs - our arrogance. THE WORLD CANNOT GO ON WITHOUT MY FLESH AND BLOOD. Puh-lease.

and, as if having the Pope all up in your business isn't enough:

3. Every state and their mom is trying to pass a personhood bill, and the latest on the list is Oklahoma. In case you've been living under a rock, these bills are threatening to the practice of in-vitro fertilization in any state in which they are passed. Which means that if you live in Oklahoma, you better get writing. And if you live in any other state and you have used, are using, or are considering the use of IVF to get pregnant, you need to PAY ATTENTION and start doing your research on this type of legislation. These bills are popping up everywhere, and it could be your turn to fight back soon.

As if being infertile wasn't enough of a pain in the ass, it's even more so when is feels like everyone's out to get you . . .


MrsMann said...

We have reached the end of our road with the RE. So last week and this week have been hell for me. Depressed is an understatement. I don't know how to quickly mourn this, accept it and move on. I don't think I can. But... adoption is where we shall be turning our attention as soon as I can get over this a little better. I so totally feel your comments about everyone else getting pregnant with their 99th child that they accidentally had. At the rate in which I am unfriending and hiding friends on facebook, I will soon be down to nothing but old farts as my friends there. :) But then maybe I can stop crying so much.

Thank you for sharing your heart and your journey with all of us. It helps.

moscherer said...

Thank you for your brilliant honesty. The infertility knife of pain remains wedged in our hearts and occasionally it settles in and we forget it's there-like adhesions have formed to hold it in place and we can hold it together emotionally because it now feels like part of us. Then someone announces their pregnancy, or someone tells you what a burden it is to get pregnant so easily, or how they "are so done" being pregnant and then we think (or at least I do), "I would give birth to an alien and carry it for the gestation of an elephant if I could just get pregnant." And the knife in your heart shifts, the adhesions give, and your heart starts burning and aching all over again.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Thank you for giving infertility a voice and a face.

Raining Sunshine said...

So poignantly crummy yet so true. I wrote last week about really having a beef with the Church after learning I am a big ol sinner and then heard about the Snooki thing today and tried to block it out of my mind. Some things I just can't understand... but you summed up a lot of feelings very well!

Jo said...

Snooki? Seriously? Yes, I've been living under a rock, and apparently I need to go back there.


Logical Libby said...

It just feels like a steel toed boot to the uterus. All of it.

And Snooki can suck it. Actually, if she had she probably wouldn't be pregnant...

Sorry, I get gross when I'm mad.

It Is What It Is said...

Fucki Snooki (that's all I have to say about that. I can't stand that I even know who she is).

I want everyone (the Pope, the President, Congress, the Presidential hopefuls, the states trying to pass personhood bills, and anyone trying to repeal Roe v. Wade) to stay out of my ute! I am beyond serious.

unaffected said...

I am really wanting to type some snarky or witty remark regarding Snooki's pregnancy, but I can't.

I'm speechless. And saddened.

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Ted and Maria said...

::mouth agape:: And people wonder why I shun (some) reality TV and organized religion. It's "arrogant" to procreate artificially, but the church encourages medical science's exploration of infertility. Wha? It seems the mere exploration would also be arrogant, since it's "God's will" that we are infertile, anyway. How dare we question that?! Grrrr!!

::deep breaths::

Rebecca said...

Oh, good lord I hadn't heard about Snooki. Well, that just pisses me the hell off. A lot.

As does the Pope's comment. Oy.

And, yeah, the personhood amendments?!

OK, so I have to stop before I spike my blood pressure. BLAH.

Glass Case of Emotion said...

I am not sure how to even respond to that anonymous commenter as it makes me so mad. Clearly they've never met an adoptive person. And clearly everyone else on that show that acts weird isn't adopted, so what's their excuse? It makes zero sense, and it's insulting.

That being said, I don't like the idea of being pregnant. Why? Because she's a major alcoholic and I worry about the health of her baby. And there's that IF piece of me that gets mad people can abuse their bodies in that way and stay pregnant!