Saturday, February 25, 2012

a meeting worth the wait

The stress of school, work, and waiting reached a head about a week ago, and I decided it was time to stop ignoring it. On the advice of my therapist, and the urging of Joey and several close friends, I booked a vacation. (I also chopped off my hair and made my first appointment to get my oft regretted "tramp stamp" covered with a more elegant piece of artwork. Sounds like a quarter-life crisis, but I promise it's not.)

Back to the vacation. It's needed. And it's coming up in less than two weeks. We're going to Washington, DC.

I'm very excited about this. DC is one of my favorite cities. I love the history, and this will be Joey's first time visiting. We are going for four days, and we have a lot of sightseeing planned. But I have to admit that I'm mostly looking forward to the final day of our trip. It's the day when I will finally get to meet four amazing women who've been there for me every step of the way on this journey.

You see, before I began blogging, I sought help and friendship on this journey through the infertility message boards on iVillage. There, I met a group of women who were relatively in the same place in their quest to become moms. We began blogging around the same time, and we followed each other throughout treatments - failed and successful, miscarriages, tough life decisions (even those beyond the realm of infertility), and plenty of tears. I lost touch with some, but five of us managed to remain close.

It's difficult to explain to people outside of this community what it's like to have such amazing friends who you've never met. They don't get it. They think it's weird to have close relationships with others solely through blogs, emails, text messages, etc. It's not weird to me. Infertility has taught me that even the closest friends in "real life" can abandon you, yet there are people who you've never been within a hundred miles of who will support you and comfort you regardless of the situation. These are those people.

I know there will be a lot of laughter at our meeting. There will also be tears of sadness and joy. But mostly, I think there will be an overwhelming feeling of thanks - at least from me. Thanks that, four years after our first introduction, I finally get to hug these amazing women who've been so wonderful and kind to me.

18 comments:

KRISTI said...

Katie--That's awesome!!! I'm still good "friends" with some women who I met through an online infertility group. Some I've met and some I haven't but I still consider them some of my closest friends!!!

Leslie said...

Yeah for your vacation!!! I hope you have a great time. It is so fun meeting others from here or ivillage!

Kelly said...

I cannot even begin to explain how I feel about meeting some of my very best friends. I cry even thinking about it!!!

Slynn said...

This is so cool! So glad you're taking the steps for yourself. Hope it's just awesome!

Serendipitie said...

My "internet" friends are the best friends I have in my life. Have a fantastic time!

Carli said...

I am so glad you are getting the chance to meet come of your ALI community "best friends". I have a group from babycenter.com that is generally the same story and meting up with them IRL was amazing. I hope you enjoy yourself!

It Is What It Is said...

Finally meeting cyber friends IRL is an amazing experience. Some of my now closest friends came to be that way and there are plenty of others I have yet to meet.

Jealous and excited for you!

Glass Case of Emotion said...

I love the friends I've met in person from the blogging world, and looking forward to meeting more. I agree the friends I've met online are every bit as real as the ones I see regularly. To that end, let me know if you are ever back in Philly. :)

JustHeather said...

Yay for the upcoming holiday! I'm on the last day of mine and it was definitely needed. (I didn't do anything special, but being away from work was enough.)
I've spent several years on iVillage myself! I am so glad you've met some wonderful women on there who have been your support over the years and that is so totally cool that you are finally going to meet them in person. It truly is a fun experience. I can't wait to hear all about it!

Rach said...

Oh I hope you get nice and refreshed after your fun vacation!

ifcrossroads.com said...

This meeting is going to be so incredibly awesome~~~ I cannot WAIT?!!??!?!?!!???!!?!?!??

AL said...

so excited of all of you to meet!!

KeAnne said...

I hope you have a wonderful time!

Rebecca said...

That's so awesome!!

Logical Libby said...

Have a great time and bask in the glory of friendship! Oh, and be sure to get a hot pretzel on the mall...

Her Royal Fabulousness said...

I also have a couple of close friends that originated from an online message board. They have become close friends and I treasure their friendship as much as many IRL friendships that I have. I hope you enjoy your meeting!

Ted and Maria said...

Oh how absolutely fantastic! I know you will have a marvelous time. I met 2 of my IF besties through the Fertile Thoughts infertility boards. We met in Chicago a couple of years ago and have been awesome friends since. :)

Jenn and Casey said...

Have a blast!!!!