Friday, February 18, 2011

getting my ducks in a row

My doctor's office finally called back this morning with the genius response of the day:

"Well, you should go off of the pill if it's causing you pain."

(Or something to that affect. Actually, I think the nurse said he felt "strongly" that I should go off of it.)

Hold up. Will everyone please do me a favor and rewind your brain to the conversation I had with this same doctor less than a month ago. The one where he told me this was my only option to get rid of the cysts?

No. Good-bye. I'm done.

This is RE #2, out the door.

I know what some of you non-IFers are thinking: you are that crazy bitch who switches doctors nonstop.

Actually, that's not true. I've seen the same GP since I was 12. 12! The guy has known me since middle school, through my angst-filled teen years, through college, and my husband is now a patient at the same practice. So no, I'm not a doctor user/abuser.

Unfortunately, infertility has taught me that no one will be your advocate in this journey. No one but yourself.


I made an appointment with an OB-GYN who has experience with infertility and dealing with endo and chronic cysts. This will be OB-GYN #4 since our journey started, and I'm hoping this time is a charm. If not, it's on to the next one.

Because I'm not going to stop fighting until I get what I deserve.

**Oh, and yesterday I started bleeding. On CD 24. I fucking hate my body right now.

29 comments:

Another Dreamer said...

And you shouldn't stop fighting until you get the help you need. I would have fired them too. I've been through 2 ob/gyns and I'm on my second RE. If I'm not getting the level of care I think I need, then I'm going to go out and find it elsewhere. I don't think you're the crazy lady who switches doctors non-stop, I think you're the smart lady who knows her body and knows that something else needs done, by someone who knows what they're doing. Hope this switch does you good, hang in there!

Rebecca said...

I can't believe that's what he said! How obnoxious.

You are definitely your own advocate and it is time to find someone who can actually help. Wishing much luck with this switch.

jennifer @ what would jen do said...

sometimes it's so hard to be taken seriously. and there are so many things doctors like to think they understand, but they don't. Just keep going to new dr's until you find the one that fits.

Danielle said...

Switching doctors, especially when dealing with something like this, does NOT make you a user or abuser. It makes you smart. You need someone you are comfortable with and someone you fully trust. You'll find them - and don't quit switching until you do. Medicine is, at the end of the day, a business. If they aren't meeting your needs you take your business elsewhere.

Astrid said...

Good for you. Just stopping by to catch up and it's amazing to see your progress in the last few months and inspiring to see you stronger than ever.

Emily said...

You have to stick up for yourself, absolutely. And most of all, I think you need to trust your doctor 100 percent. If you can't say that you trust him that much, you need to move on, no question about it.

Dawn said...

Sadly, you have to be your own advocate. I am praying that doctor #4 is the right one for you. I absolutely HATE that you have to go through this crap.

Secret Sloper said...

Kick that asswipe to the curb. A doctor who can't even bother to remember your case from one week to the next is NOT worth it. You will find someone who cares and it will make all the difference. It sucks that it is taking so much out of you to find this person, though.

Krista said...

I'm sorry you are going through so much agony right now. I don't blame you for switching REs. I always say that if you aren't 100% comfortable with your RE...then they aren't for you. If you don't feel like they know what they are doing and can handle your sitatuation then find someone else. Good luck to you!!

someday-soon said...

Being your own health care advocate is a must...but it sucks too. I wish we all just had doctors who paid attention, were good at what they do and gave a crap! GL with #4, I hope they're the one =)

~C~ said...

There's nothing wrong with switching doctors at all, ever, but especially when your doctor doesn't seem to be wholly concerned with actually fixing the problem.

Trisha said...

I hope this doctor is a good fit for you! You are so right, you definitely have to be your own advocate! We've learned that the hard way!

Hayley said...

"Don't stooop beeeeelievin"

Sorry. I had to. I don't blame you for switching doctors. You know how I feel about this office and their stupid response. Love you yo!

AL said...

your doctor is an a-hole. This new OB GYN sounds great on paper, I hope he or she turns out to be as good as they sound. It's so true, you have to be your own advocate with IF.

Hope the pain goes away and this next doc is great.

Bobbi said...

I couldn't agree more that we are our only advocate. The doctors, although have good intentions, are not completely reliable. I totally support you on this search to finding what you deserve!

Kelly said...

I'm glad that you switched doctors. Clearly, this one is an idiot.

Kaitake said...

I'm so sorry you're feeling down, but I'm very relieved to hear that you're not goin to stick around with a sub-standard doctor. I've been with the same GP for all my 28 yrs, and this week I'm swapping because he pissed me off and offended me horribly. And I've changed my diabetes endo in the past too - sometime doctors just aren't a good fit. You have to feel safe, supported, and that your voice will be heard. Oh, and excellent medical skills are a must! Good luck with the new doc :) I hope he/she can give you the answers you deserve.

Jessica said...

Good for you...I think you should change doctors if you are not happy. I hate my body right now too!!

*Jelena* said...

I really wish I could connect you with my doctor, but it's kinda impossible, unless you're willing to move to Serbia.
Life had been a real bitch to you lately. HUGS

amiracle4us said...

I agree...that is crazy and deserves a new MD!!! Being your own advocate is the best thing you can do. It is tough, and takes more time, but worth it in the end. Hang in there K :)

christine said...

I've seen two different REs and two different OBs and I don't regret it at all. Both switches led me to better doctors and for that I am so grateful! Switch as many times as you need to!!

S.I.F. said...

Good for you Katie! Get the heck out of there - not worth your time!!

Hoping this new doctor is the trick my friend. You DESERVE that relief!

Adele said...

I think this is a good move, Katie. Look, I've switched doctors many times in the past few years. It's always strange to switch, but I've never regretted it. Because each new doctor - each step - gives me a fuller picture. And your current doc (not to mention their "office", a term I use lightly) is clearly not working. Ridiculous.

You're absolutely right about being your own advocate. You have to be. When I think about the mistakes I've caught and the hounding I've had to do, well, it makes me resentful. But I did it. And things are better for it.

nobabyruth said...

Godo for you for leaving that RE in the dust! There is no need for you to have to deal with such inconsistent attention. Doctors provide a service like so many other professionals. You are not tied down to one and are more than entitled to shop around as much as you see fit until you find the RIGHT provider!

suchagoodegg said...

Seeeeee ya RE #2. You are the furthest thing from a doctor shopper. You are managing your own health care and protecting yourself and being your best advocate. That is SMART.

I'm psyched for a new RE for you. It took me three times to get it right (Dr. C, then Dr. K, then finally Dr. Awesome). And I will say, it was 200% worth the drama and fatigue of find THE ONE.

Kakunaa said...

Good for you! I hope you can get into this OB soon, and that they are willing to take some aggressive steps to get you feeling better!!!

Waiting Lisa said...

Sounds like a smart decision!

Baby bump bound said...

I think it's imperative to be your own advocate and I applaud you for doing so. I am sorry you are going through so much with your body right now. Thinking of you!

conceptionallychallenged said...

You're not crazy. You have to be your own advocate in terms of health care (who else will do it?), especially with an issue as badly understood as endometriosis. I hope the new doc has answers for you, Katie. And I hope no-one judges you without having walked a mile in your shoes, or spent a month in your body. Hugs.