Wednesday, September 8, 2010

i am terrible

I am terrible, horrible, craptastic blogger and blog friend.

I'm not trying to make excuses, but grad school is kicking my ass. I just haven't had time to read everyone's blogs or sit down and write a coherent/meaningful post.

I did have a chance to read everyone's comments on my previous post, and I want to thank all of you for your support and kind words. It's been a tough time the last couple of weeks as I read more BFP stories and my Google reader becomes flooded with baby updates. Don't get me wrong: I'm happy for all of you. I know how hard each of you worked for your babies. But it doesn't make me absent of pain. I'm working on it.

The long weekend was fun and much needed. We went to the Gator game on Saturday and enjoyed our first row seats for the (ugly) win. Here are some photos from the game.
Sunday we headed over to Tampa for the evening to enjoy a night away. We did some window-shopping, ate dinner at Brio, and then met up with one of our good friends for drinks. It was a relaxing night away.

But the weekend wasn't all sunshine and roses. On Sunday, we received the news that an acquaintance of ours, Tom, was killed in Africa while serving in the Peace Corps. I first met Tom during my junior year of college and spent many weekends at his and our friend Andy's apartment "pre-gaming" before nights downtown. It's strange to think that a person you saw almost every weekend is now gone, his life ending in a senseless tragedy at the age of 24. It makes you think: about love, kindness, the goodness of people, and the purpose of life. Please keep his family and close friends in your thoughts and prayers this week. 

You can read the article about his death and watch a video about Tom here.

24 comments:

Erin said...

I am so, so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend! Sending hugs and prayers.

We all get into blogging slumps sometimes. Living your life and taking care of you is always more important that commenting on blogs. We'll still be here when you get back.

Melissa G said...

Katie, I'm so sorry about your friend. Even 8 years after loosing a good friend of mine, it still blows my mind. It just doesn't make any sense - and sometimes I forget he's gone.

And I know the feeling about being overwhelmed by bloggy BFP's. I think it's pretty normal that their news only reminds you of what you still don't have. Hey you'll be safe with me for a good while! =)

Hang in there.

Rebecca said...

I am so sorry about the loss of your friend. That is incredibly upsetting.

I know there are times when I can't handle reading or commenting. So, I wait it out, wipe out my reader and start over again. Sometimes it is just necessary to let some time go by.

Ashley said...

Sorry to hear about your friend. Love the pics!!! Don't feel bad that you have a hard time reading BFP stories..I'll be honest, I still have a hard time reading them and for now I am one. I'm not sure that ever goes away...
Hope you have a great rest of the week!!!!

serenity said...

Blogging is an ebb and flow sort of thing. And sometimes it's too painful to read other people's stories; it's okay to admit that. (AND stop reading.) Truth is, IF is a marathon, not a sprint, and when you don't have the emotional reserves to cope, it's okay to abandon blogs for a little while.

And I'm really sorry to hear about your friend's death as well.

xoxo

Kakunaa said...

Wow, you knw him? Small world...I read about that. I was in the Peace Corps years ago, but not the whole tour. I was very sorry to hear about it.

And may I say you guys are absolutely adorable!!!

Waiting Lisa said...

I had a really hard time the weekend my grandpa died. I was so sad and felt like I was drowning in a sea of BFPs that weekend. Surrounded by something I knew I could never have. And when you spend hours reading about it, it kind of screws with your head, ya know? I was questioning whether it was really a healthy place to put myself in. Sometimes you need to step away.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss. <3

suchagoodegg said...

Katie, I'm so sorry about your friend. So sad. (((hugs)))

Glass Case of Emotion said...

I am so sorry to hear about your friend Tom. That is so very tragic.

I can relate to the bloggy list of BFP's. I really can't help but wonder if I'll ever be on it. Sometimes, I need to stay away for bits of time to keep myself sane.

Hugs to you!

AL said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. (((Hugs)))

And you, my friend, are anything but terrible. One of the most compassionate and caring bloggers I know. If you need some time off cuz work/school is kicking your butt, we understand. And we'll be here for you when you come back. Hang in there.

someday-soon said...

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend! This world just doesn't make sense sometimes...ok, a lot of the time. I'm also sorry that my blog updates are at all a source of pain for you. Not one post to I author and not think of my TTC readers that must take a deep breath before reading. You have been such a constant source of support, even through your pain, and I want to let you know I appreciate it and if ever they are just too hard to deal with please, please, please skip them and know I will understand {{{HUGS}}}

Adele said...

I'm so sorry about your friend - that's terrible:( And as far as the blogging silence, sometimes it's just...necessary! (And a symptom of living life).

T said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. He was taken away way too young.

The Steffens said...

I'm sorry about the loss of your friend. Keeping y'all in my thoughts.

Also, if the pregnant bloggers upset you, don't read them! I swear no one will be offended or upset. We all understand. Just do what you need to do for you.

*hugs*

Maureen said...

Katie, I am so sorry about your friend! That is awful. Your blogging has been incredible compared to my slackness. I am too much of a psycho these days to post. Sending you hugs!!

P.S. You and your hubby are adorable!

Stefanie Blakely said...

You. Are. Precious.

Those pics of you guys at the game are so cute-- you guys look incredibly happy together. :)

I am so, so sorry to hear about your friend Tom. We are so blessed to have people that are willing to give everything they have to those who need it most. Bless Tom, and may the work he did always be remembered.

JC said...

I'm so sorry about your friend. That's awful and so sad. =(

I'm glad you had a nice weekend at the game and in Tampa. And I can't even imagine how busy you must be with grad school added to your plate. You're amazing!

foxy said...

Oh my gosh, I love the pictures of you and your love. You are a beautiful lady and a beautiful couple! It can be so nice to get away form home - I think it breaks up the routine that we fall into.

I watched the video and read the article about your friend Tom. He sounds like an awesome guy who will clearly be missed dearly by his friends and family. The story is so tragic and sad, an unfortunate reminder that bad things can and do happen to good people. I hope that you are able to connect with other good friends to share some of your favorite memories - it sounds like you guys had some really fun times together.

oh yeah - I think that you are a super awesome rock star for going back to school! Its no wonder that you are busy! :) I do LOVE LOVE LOVE your writing, and look forward to your posts, but it sounds like you have your priorities straight :)

xoxo-foxy

ifcrossroads.com said...

I'm really sorry to read about your friend Katie. That is just terrible.

Don't stress about being a little absent from blog-land. You're allowed to take a mental health break for yourself, nobody will judge!

((hugs)) and I'm always thinking about you.

foxinthehenhouse said...

Grad school will suck the life out of you if you let it. Hang in there...

Dawn said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. What a tragedy! He sounds like he was a very special person.

Take all the time you need from blogging. I hate that you are feeling the way that you are!

P.S. You guys looked adorable at the game!

Jess said...

Condolences for the loss of your dear friend. It is always so so difficult hearing of one so young passing away. Sometimes just leaves you speechless.

Sometimes it is very difficult to find time/ideas for things to post on. Don't sweat it. :)

Looks like you had fun at the game!

~Jess
http://bringingyoumorethanasong.blogspot.com/

Tillie said...

sending you lots of love and hugs...take care of yourself...we will be here when you return.

Conceptionally Challenged said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Katie.
Thinking of you.