Monday, August 23, 2010

square one

I turned down the job.

I know it was the right thing to do. 

So why do I feel so yucky?

33 comments:

AplusB said...

Katie, I'm sorry you were faced with such a difficult decision. The salary cut is a huge sacrifice and I'm sure you made the right decision for you and your family's future. Something else will come up and be perfect for you.

Rach said...

Sorry to hear about the job. Sometimes what we really want just isn't the best decision. I hope something better comes soon!

Kim said...

Uhhggg Katie.....because there really was "winning" here. Either way you had to make a sacrafice, you were stuck between a rock and a hard spot. I am sorry. perhaps it will be in hindsight that you look back one day and say that was the best decision I ever made. I hope so. xoxoxoxox

Crossed Fingers said...

You feel yucky because you know it was a great job but you turned it down because you knew it wasn't a great job for YOU - not right now in this path.

Kudos to you for acing the interview and getting the offer - awesome! You made the right choice for you and that's all that counts right now.

AL said...

Like Kim said, there was no winning here. If you took the job, you would be scared of how you two would survive financially. You made the right decision for you and your husband - I know another great job (with the right $) will come along.

HUGS.

Stephanie said...

I'm sorry - that is a really tough decision. I'm sure it was one that you didn't make lightly though.

Kelly said...

Your decision makes sense, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Keep your fingers crossed for something else, equally great, to turn up soon.

Dawn said...

I'm sorry that this one didn't work out! I'm hoping that the right opportunity with a much better salary is right around the corner for you!

serenity said...

Tough choice. I'm sorry.

Hugs.

xoxo

Josey said...

That's such a hard decision Katie. :( Hang in there...

Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.? said...

Such a difficult decision. Sorry you were put in a position to make it.

Jessica said...

It's never easy to make that kind of decision. It's in our nature to second ourselves, but I'm sure did what was right for you...((HUGS))

Stefanie Blakely said...

I'm so sorry, Katie. I'm in the exact same position-- I've been offered a job that I really want to take, but I know in my heart is not the right fit. I've been avoiding letting them know (they told me to take a few weeks to think about it) because it's so disappointing... but I need to do it. Your post has giving me the kick in the butt to get it over with. So, thanks. *hugs*

The Steffens said...

I know you made the right decision for you and your family. But making the right decision is never easy and doesn't always feel wonderful. I know there will be an even better opportunity for you down the road.

Jin said...

Those decisions suck. I'm in the same boat whenever I job hunt because the starting grade that I qualify for without advance degrees or experience would be nearly a $20k pay cut for us. We cannot afford to do that, even for a year.

So I'm holding hope out for something that'll come along and be the perfect fit.

PCOSChick said...

Katie-thinking of you right now, because I know the right decision may not always be the easiest.

liberalgranolagirl said...

Thinking about you <3 Decisions like this are crazy difficult but that pay cut is HUGE. The right job with the right salary will definitely find you.

Willow said...

It's always so hard to find yourself at a fork in your life's journey and have to figure out which way to go. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I'd taken a different job offer--but looking back, I know that the path I chose was the right one, uncertain as I felt at the time. You are a smart, insightful lady, and I feel confident that you've made the best choice for you.

christine said...

Gah! I HATE that. Decisions like that are so hard to make and I'm sorry you had to do it. Hope the icky feelings go away soon!

Trisha said...

Sorry about feeling yucky but I applaud you for making the best decision for you and your family! Hang in there!

Nixy said...

This is why IF sucks. It consumes everything about life. So sorry that you're dealing with this crap.

Arlyne said...

tremendous (((HUGS)))!!!!

I'm guessing they wouldn't budge on the salary issue. I'm so sorry you had to make such a lousy choice :(

xo

JC said...

I'm sorry you had to do this, but I think it was the right move. I think the right thing will come along and I hope it does for you soon!!

jill's infertility document said...

I'm sorry you had to turn down a great (but not so great) job, but how awesome to be able to turn down a job. I know it doesn't feel awesome and I'm sorry. Your decision makes sense for you right now. Here's to waiting for the right job for you and your career AND your family building plans!

Rita said...

You know you did the right thing. It just sucks when the right thing doesn't feel right.

I have everything crossed that a wonderful, high-paying, career-building job is right around the corner for you (among other wonderful things). :)

jensays (what would jen do) said...

well it was a really difficult decision to make and in the end you just had to do what's right for you. you'll feel better soon

Kakunaa said...

It's because you had to give up something you really wanted, something that would have made you happy...that is never, ever easy, sweetie. I had to do it 2 years ago. HUGS.

foxy said...

Eck. I freak out about big decisions and have a hard time with big changes. I usually rely on my 'gut' to let me know if I've made the right choices, but it isn't always as reliable as I'd like, and sometimes there just aren't any right answers. It sounds this might be one of those situations.

It is pretty awesome that you got the offer though - just remember that you freakin RAWK and there are tons of great things waiting for you just around the next curve. (and when we are reading children's books to our pregnant bellies, this life choice will be long forgotten.)

S.I.F. said...

You feel yucky because some decisions just don't have any easy answers... but you did what was right for you, and in the long run you will be glad about that. Something better will come along!

S.I.F. said...

You feel yucky because some decisions just don't have any easy answers... but you did what was right for you, and in the long run you will be glad about that. Something better will come along! And being stressed all the time about money would not have been helpful.

Marla said...

Sorry the job didn't work out. I can definitely relate. It sucks! *hugs*

Waiting Lisa said...

Ugh. I am so sorry. What a difficult decision to have to make. I hope something eventually comes along that is perfect...money included.

Jess said...

Sometimes there is just not an easy choice. If you HAD taken the job, you may have had regrets as well. Perhaps something much better will come around soon.