I feel like I was unclear about what I wrote on Friday (giving all of this the middle finger and just walking away--spending our money on something else like a big vacation or a new car). In no way did I intend for that to come across like I wasn't serious about having a baby and spending whatever money necessary to do it. I am very serious about it and this is very important to me. It's also very important to Joey. Right now we are just trying to do this in the most responsible, practical, and resourceful way possible. Thanks to those of you who suggested an IVF vacation. That's a really great idea and I will definitely be looking into that.
To those who asked how we would find out whether a company offers IVF coverage. I have a small list that is growing daily for those who want it. (You can e-mail me at fromiftowhen at gmail dot com.) The easiest way to find out about IVF coverage is to ask a potential employer for their insurance carrier and that carrier's group number. You can call that insurance company directly, give them the group number, and ask whether that group number offers IVF coverage on their policy. Can you tell I've done this before? My company does not offer IVF coverage, but the insurance agent I asked did tell me how I could "get around" having to pay out of pocket for certain costs. As a result, I've always had my visits, blood work, and ultrasounds covered--just not the IUIs themselves.
This weekend, I had my first acupuncture consult, and I am feeling very positive about what the acupuncturist said. She came highly recommended by several of my contacts with Resolve and she has many years of experience with infertility patients--some of whom came to her and became pregnant after years of failed IVFs. My physical evaluation is this Saturday and after that I will start treatment. She would like me to try one last IUI after we go through a few months of treatment, but we'll see where we're at.
Each day I feel a little better. Not 100%, but better. I have moments of anger and sadness, but then they retreat to the back of my mind and I feel almost normal again. Almost.
Oh, and two "life" updates: my boob is still lumpy. The plan is to get another u/s at the end of the year unless my surgeon wants one sooner or refers me to a specialist. I am supposed to hear back this week. And last, I got into graduate school. Finally, some good news about something!