Sunday, June 20, 2010

the cherry on top

As if Father's Day isn't difficult enough, Joey and I got an e-mail this afternoon that put a cherry on top of our cake.

We are most likely not going to get the two puppies.

The foster mom has reconsidered and no longer believes we'll be a good fit for the dogs. She'll make her final decision in a week.

I should mention that these are the second and third dogs we've been shot down about with this agency. The first, the dog we applied for, was also "not a good fit." We accepted and forgave that decision when we met and fell in love with the brother and sister.

I'm pretty sure I can't forgive this.

Her reasons behind it are that 1) the male is starting to exhibit separation anxiety. He barks when they leave. First, don't all dogs get sad when their owners leave? I didn't realize that barking with a trait of separation anxiety. I also didn't realize that a dog barking was a negative trait at all. I've owned and been around doxies my entire life. They bark AT EVERYTHING. I don't care if you stand right next to them--they bark whenever they want to. Also, when he's "separated," is he separated from his sister? Could that be why he's upset? Do they want him to go to a home that's young enough to care for puppies, yet the couple doesn't have small children AND one member of the couple is home all of the time?

Best of luck with that.

2) they are concerned about the next door neighbor's dog and how his barking may affect these puppies.

Are you out of your mind? Now you want owners who have no dogs living next door, in addition to having someone home all day, having no small kids in the house, and having owners who are young? And you are punishing us for having a temporary next door neighbor who owns a dog who barks?

This is just great. Not only is God telling us we can't have children, but now a woman trying to play God is telling me I can't have these dogs. Dogs she brought over here. Dogs she originally seemed excited about placing with us. We were trying to do the right thing. We were trying to adopt instead of buying from a breeder or a puppy mill. Like always, we were trying to do the right thing and we were royally screwed in the end.

We would be excellent parents to a baby or to puppies. When is someone going to give us the chance to do either?

37 comments:

Littlest True Blue said...

Screw her. I hate that lady and she is obviously some psycho dog lady. I really hope you get the dogs and never have to deal with her again. And if that doesn't work out I hope you find another place to get some puppy love from! Doggies are the BEST!
Sorry for the shitty cherry on top! thinking of you..
LTB

PCOSChick said...

Oh hun, this is crap!! I am more than happy to come down there & have a talk with her about what horse puckey I think this is too! I hope she stops dragging you guys along & gives you those puppies! I am so sorry you have to deal with this

Erin said...

Ugh. We went through this when we were first trying to adopt a dog. One of the rescues wanted us to have at least 1/2 acre fenced in yard, PLUS someone should be home with the dog during the day. The dog wasn't supposed to be left alone for more than 2 hours at a time. Ummm, what? I can't be a SAHM to a dog!

Anyhow, I'm sorry this foster mom is being a pain for you. I hope she comes around and that you get your pups soon.

Katie said...

WHAT AN IDIOT that woman is!! Sorry y'all had to get that email today, of all days.

Good for for trying to rescue a dog.....FWIW, I bought Gizmo from a breeder, but I still feel like I "rescued" him, b/c the woman was AW.FUL. -- she was mean to the dogs and particularly mistreated the one that was to become my sweet baby b/c he was "the runt and had an overbite." I took him away from that bitch before she could blink!

Long story to make my point...I know.... good luck getting your pooches!!

Noelle said...

I am so so sorry. I can't imagine anyone rejecting you-the kindest person on the planet. That's why she is obviously a nutcase. I hope you find your doggies very soon!

Rebecca said...

How absolutely incredibly ridiculous!!! This woman is a nut job. I can't begin to understand what she's thinking. Im so, so sorry. UGH.

lindsey said...

What a moron! I have a little doxie and she barks at my baby niece becuase she wants to be held. I think that it's importnat to find good homes for dogs but how is she ever going to find parents if she's a douche bag? big huhs! xoxo

Waiting Lisa said...

Wow, that is crazy. This is how I felt a few days ago with the situation in Iowa. Like it doesn't make sense and it's unfair. And they shouldn't have gotten our hopes up.

I hope she changes her mind.

Sara said...

What a crazy lady! It sounds like maybe she isn't ready to let them go. If she is that picky she will never find anyone. Maybe she should realize that the only thing that matters is how much people will love a dog...screw the rest of the stuff on her checklist. Thinking of you...

Rach said...

That agency is being ridiculous. I'd be ticked.

Dawn said...

I'm so sorry. That is such crap.

I bought my beagle from a farm after being shot down by three places when trying to go the rescue route. My dogs have a wonderful life, but still three places didn't seem to think we would be good enough owners to adopt. I found it incredibly frustrating and disappointing.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Glass Case of Emotion said...

Don't give up hope- these foster agencies can be nuts. If you have to, move on to another. I am so sorry, it just must add on so much frustration. I used to work with rescues and they sometimes just like to assert their dominance, and i think they get carried away sometimes. Maybe the dogs are barking because they are in a foster home with other dogs. Such crap. They don't think your home is good because the dog might bark? Dogs do bark when they have seperation anxiety, but if you crate them and handle the behavior appropriately, the dog will learn and move on. That's ridiculous, and what is their plan for handling it? Giving it to someone who will be home all day? That doesn't solve the problem. Dumb.

JC said...

I'm so sorry Katie! I can't believe that whore! That's just too much to handle, on top of IF and Father's Day. I hope you get your puppies very soon. Any puppy would be lucky to have you and your husband. (F and I looked into rescuing a pug before we got Milo but I was scared they wouldn't give us one b/c of me working all day and stuff. I just didn't want to deal with it. We ended up getting him from a breader in Melb and she was really good to the dogs. I found it on Fl Today website and went the next day. Anyways...I really hope you get pups very very soon!!!)

Rachel said...

I just found your blog on RESOLVE blog nominations. As a dog owner, I feel so bad for you. I'm sure you'd make a great doggy mama. This woman is just on a power kick.

(BTW, we adopted our dog from a shelter in rural WV. No judgmental screening, they just looked at my driver's license, took our $35 and gave her to us. If you live near a rural area, you may want to check out petfinder.)

Trisha said...

I'm so sorry you're having to go through all of this. Something doesn't sound right with that "agency"; most want their dogs to go to loving homes instead of having to keep them in shelters etc. We adopted both of our dogs from rescue shelters when they were puppies and they are the greatest dogs. You may want to check in to that route. Many hugs to you!

ifcrossroads said...

What a load of shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry, but as a doxie owner myself, you are TOTALLY right, they bark at everything because they are hound dogs and that is their nature. Oh Katie, this woman is out of her mind. To me it sounds like the foster mom doesn't want to give up the puppies and wants to keep them for herself, and now she's making up stupid excuses.
UGH! What a bitch! She's clearly not fit to be a doxie foster mom if those are her concerns. I hope you get those doggies :)

The Baby Race said...

Who is this woman???? She sounds like a horrible human being. How dare she arbitrarily decide you don't deserve these puppies.
I'm so sorry, hon :(

Kandid Kelli said...

WTF!? Srsly? Now I want to punch this lady in the face.

That is all. Screw her.

xo
-K

someday-soon said...

I hope she reconsiders again and you get these puppies!

Kaitake said...

That's terrible, all the hoops she's making you go through! I'm sure you would make an excellent puppy-Mum! Perhaps she's just changed her mind about adopting the dogs out? I hope you can rescue them! Best wishes :)

S.I.F. said...

What is wrong with this lady?!? You WOULD be amazing parents to these dogs AND to a little one! So annoying Katie! I'm just so sorry!

Stephanie said...

Oh Katie I'm so sorry! That stinks. Unfortunately many adoption agencies for pups are horrible to deal with, I get it they want the dogs in a good home, but sometimes they get so uppity they overlook fabulous potential owners! We were turned down for pups too before we gout our sweet Loucie. Thinking of you and sending hugs!!

Stephanie said...

Oh Katie I'm so sorry! That stinks. Unfortunately many adoption agencies for pups are horrible to deal with, I get it they want the dogs in a good home, but sometimes they get so uppity they overlook fabulous potential owners! We were turned down for pups too before we gout our sweet Loucie. Thinking of you and sending hugs!!

WannabeMom said...

Oh my goodness!!! That is craziness! I cannot believe she wouldn't let you adopt the puppies. So sorry!

Basic Girl said...

I'm so sorry Katie, that is just so awful!! I really hope you can find a new place without some crazy lady who refuses to let people actually adopt their puppies. Ugh, so frustrating!!!

Maureen said...

That lady sounds crazy! Why would she turn down a loving home for these dogs? This makes me mad honey. Have you checked the local shelters? They won't turn you down. I'm sorry sweetie.

doganxiety said...

Sorry, her decisions sounds really harsh. I understand that rescues have a duty to place their dogs carefully, but I've also experienced that approach where just about every dog you want to take on they have a reason you can't - it's really frustrating when you know you can offer a good home. It's true that Dog separation anxiety can be difficult to deal with, but the dog will experience it whoever he goes to, so its not really a good excuse.

Crossed Fingers said...

WHAT?! She's insane. I bet she just doesn't want to part with them. What a Bee och! You WILL find doggies that will be a perfect fit for you and won't have some crazy over obsessed freak attached to them.

Anonymous said...

my mom always says God doesn't give us more than we can handle. But sometimes I totally do not believe that!

Your dog situation is a case in point.

As someone who is dealing with issues I never could have foreseen, it doesnt take much unexpected stress for me to start feeling sorry for myself. Which then I feel bad about, because I really am pretty lucky in most areas of my life. Just not all of them, like children/nice house, etc.

That lady sounds like a nut job, and it's for the best you didnt get her dogs, if that helps at all. I am sorry you had to go thru that, TOTALLY UNFAIR.

as is so much these days! I think I am having a bad day, anyways, I wish you the best and may the perfect dog enter your life as quickly as possible,

Mary

Arlyne said...

I hate that agency!!! Screw them all! You guys will be fantastic dog parents AND fantastic parents!!!

Sending you guys tons of love & hugs!!! xo

Laurie said...

I'm sorry that they are giving you such a hard time. It's totally lame. I hope things work out for you!

Keiko said...

Have you tried adopting through Petsmart? We basically got our second cat same day; their animals are of course, shelter-based. This is so crappy that you're being put to the ropes to adopt animals that truly needs a home. (Thanks for the comment on my blog, btw).

Bean stalk ballads said...

Katie what a friggin spoon. Man she is just a job, no two ways about it. Honey. Maybe those two pooches are not meant to be yours... but there are poochies out there just waiting for the chance to come home with you. Hugs.

Kelly said...

This is just crazy. Her reasons are absolutely ridiculous! What gets me the most is the idea of the neighbor's dog. WTF??? Now she's policing who your neighbors are?

There are plenty of dogs that are waiting for a loving home and a better rescue or agency that you could go through!

Kelly said...

This is just crazy. Her reasons are absolutely ridiculous! What gets me the most is the idea of the neighbor's dog. WTF??? Now she's policing who your neighbors are?

There are plenty of dogs that are waiting for a loving home and a better rescue or agency that you could go through!

Jessica said...

What a crock!!! I wish you could just catch a break!!

Ashley said...

What?! That's crap!! Clearly she is just making up excuses out of thin air! I hope she comes to her senses soon!