Thursday, May 20, 2010

the carls


We interrupt this regularly-scheduled programming for a post that has nothing to do with infertility:

As most of you know, Joey and I moved into our first home recently. So far, it's lovely. Things are coming together very nicely. The downstairs, with the exception of the transitions for the wood floors and wall art, is just about finished. The upstairs still needs some work, but everything should be done in the next couple of months.

The economy the way it is, a lot of people in our neighborhood are renters. It's a pretty quiet place. Most people have kids and dogs and can be seen walking with one or both as the sun goes down. People grill out on their back porches or sit and chat with other neighbors on chairs on their front porches. People wave when you drive by and, by 9 pm, our community is dark and quiet for the most part.

We love everything about our new home and our new neighborhood . . .

(Can you tell there is a "but" coming here?)

EXCEPT for our next-door neighbor.

Let's call him Carl. Carl appears to be the only person in the neighborhood who isn't friendly. He doesn't wave and he isn't considerate of others. How do I know this? Well, when I get home from work at about 6 pm, Carl is usually home already, playing his obnoxious music on his surround sound to the point where I can't hear my television when I'm trying to do my afternoon yoga. If it's not music on the surround sound, it's a video game or a "blow everything up" movie--all of which he has been known to leave ON when he leaves to go off, get drunk, and not return until about midnight.

Carl is pushing 40. He has two children (of course he does!), neither of whom live with him full time . . . probably so he can enjoy his party lifestyle. I've seen no less than five different women at his house to spend the night, all in their mid- to late twenties. Carl also has a dog, who he keeps locked in the garage all day and occasionally all night. The poor puppy cries and cries for someone to listen.

Carl is a moron. After complaints from neighbors, letters from the HOA, and two visits from the sheriff's department, Carl continues to pretend as though he lives in a house two acres from the nearest neighbor--instead of living in a townhouse community where he shares one wall with a single mother who is still in school and works full-time from home and a couple who are trying to have a baby and who both work full-time and go to school. What Carl doesn't realize is that every time someone complains about him, the owners of the property are notified.

I don't care how stupid Carl is or if it takes getting him evicted to get my point across, but I will not put up with this. This is our first home and we purchased a home in a community where we thought we could bring our first child into, and that has been ruined for me. Even Joey, who is normally the non-emotional, level-headed person in our relationship, is upset over this (he is the one who convinced me that we needed to go to the police).

Of all the people in the neighborhood we could have moved in next to, we had to move in next to Carl. At the end of the day, I know we are doing all we can to take care of this, but it's frustrating and it makes me angry. Not to sound all "woe is me," but why is it that everywhere we go and anything we do, we have to deal with the Carls and the Carl situations of the world? I'm tired: physically, mentally, and emotionally. Give me a break for once, would you? Anyone. Anyone who is listening.

All I'm asking for is a little peace in this madness.

29 comments:

jensays said...

If you call every time he's making too much noise the police have to come out. At least they do where I live. They may not show up right away, but they show up.

Britt said...

I am listening and being sympathetic! I was just telling my hubs yesterday that I feel like I just need something "good" to happen. Sorry you are dealing with the carls (hey, that sounds like a new slang for bad junk!)

Kandid Kelli said...

I hope he gets evicted! and I hope someone [loving] steals his dog. Just saying. Just remember it may take time but Karma is a horrible bitch!! ;)

ily girl...

xo
-K

AplusB said...

So awful! Yikes, what a nightmare neighbor!

Crossed Fingers said...

I do believe that is considered noise pollution right? And there might even be a noise ordinance law in your area that he's breaking over & over. I would make sure he realizes he cannot push his lifestyle on his superclose neighbors and expect them to just accept it!

Stephanie said...

Ugh. How horrible to have to deal with! I'm sorry! Definitely call the cops and try to get him under control. And I second Kandid Kelli - can someone take his poor dog away from him!? That breaks my heart for the pup! Just remember, God only gives us what He knows we can handle. Hugs!

Jessica said...

Sorry you are having to deal with Carl. Your home should be a place you can go and relax...don't let him take that away from you. Keep complaining until he gets kicked out!! GL!!

MrsShoffernan said...

Oh no, this sounds terrible. I'm so sorry. Hopefully, your continued complaints will get his landlord to give him the boot. No landlord wants to put up with constantly being bothered about what a tenant is doing right?

I don't know what else to say to help, except that I totally sympathize with you and I once lived under a (clinical) crazy woman who cussed us out as we left our home and threw random bible scriptures mixed with illegible semi-threats onto our doormat. She screamed and howled all hours of the night, STOMPED intentionally and constantly and kept her heat up high enough to make us bake. She was not only very disruptive but actually scary and unsafe.

Hopefully, this "Carl" either starts to take a hint or realizes he sleazy behavior was not meant for a nice, family community.

I agree about the noise ordinance, too.

Good Luck!

Jen said...

ooooooh, that makes me mad too! You shouldn't have to deal with that crap when you're not renting anymore! Ugh. I hope they take his dog away, seriously

suchagoodegg said...

So freaking annoying! Stay on it and get Carl the F out of there!

Dawn said...

Oh no! I hope you catch a break soon and get Carl the hell out of there.

erika said...

Carl sounds exactly like my friend's obnoxious neighbor. Same symptoms. I am so sorry:( bad neighbours suck. I hope something can be done about it, it's just awful to have to put up with his crap.
I had couple of months at my former place, where I had 3 bad neighbors in the same time. Thanks heavens they all moved within couple of months. I am wishing you the same relief and soon!

2catdaughters said...

How obnoxious! I'm so sorry you have to deal with Carl and his B.S. *hugs*

someday-soon said...

There's always that one neighbor...UGH! Go get em =)

Kakunaa said...

Keep pushing....I've had to do it before, and you better believe I got them evicted. We're here, we're listening, and we understand. Grab the peace where you can, sweet girl.

Basic Girl said...

Oh man, that just frickin sucks Katie. I'm sorry about Carl, sounds like a huge jerk...and definitely not the neighbor you want to deal with when you buy your first home. Ugh!!! And you have every right to complain to whoever you can and get him the eff out of there!!

Marla.z said...

Stupid Carl! Stupid, stupid Carl! Grrrr! Why do all neighbors have to be such a-holes! Okay, not all of them are, just the ones that live next to you and me.

Hope this situation gets resolved soon!

Maureen said...

Carl sucks! Sorry you have to put up w/ a crappy neighbor. That would make me grumpy.

Astrid said...

oh heeeellll no. I am so sorry. And I know what you mean when it comes to feeling like no matter what direction i step in it's a step directly into dog s--t. I too live next to one of the worst neighbors in the 'hood but really your story beats all. Check out the noise regulations in your neighborhood - i'm not sure if it's regulated by county or city but there are usually rules saying things like you can't disturb the peace or your neighbors' enjoyment of their own properties and there are ways to file complaints about that that may lead to him having to go to hearings, pay fines, etc. It wouldn't hurt to file one more complaint and might help to find something specific in the local laws to pin him with as opposed to random calls to the sheriff. Also it probably wouldn't hurt to lodge one more complaint with him personally and with the HOA. Getting him evicted might be the easiest route. If there's an HOA association maybe a petition could be started to get him thrown out. What a jerk! I wouldn't be able to tolerate it and you absolutely shouldn't have to. Definitely stay on the authorities until something happens. It'll be worth it even though it's a lot of effort. I am so sorry.

Kelly said...

Give me his address and I'll fly down there and kick his man-whoring, moron drinking ass for you.

I hope that made you chuckle a little. (((HUGS)))

Ashley said...

Stupid Carl!!!! Why do people get dogs if they are not going to take care of them? That messes with me bad.

Hope Carl gets abducted by aliens soon. :)
(if he does, will you promise to rescue the puppy?)

Sorry you are having to deal with this!

Rebecca said...

Man, that really does suck!! Im so sorry you're having tqo deal with it.

Just Me...C said...

Not only am I listening, but I can emphathize about disliking some renters. Some are amazing. Some not so much. Keep calling the police, the hoa and even animal control if that dog is kept in conditions that are too hot. Hopefully you will have some relief soon. I am sorry you are being faced with this in your new home.

Katie said...

I agree with those mentioning the noise ordinance. Keep calling the police...they do have to come when you call. Eventually, it'll bring results.

And, you could call the humane society about the dog abuse (which that might be), but if they'll just give him a citation.

GOOD LUCK!

Suzanna Catherine said...

Get your neighbors involved. There's strength in numbers. Also, if more than one resident is calling the police, they'll be more likely to take action.

Good luck!

Noelle said...

I am so sorry. Just reading your post made me wince. I have all too often lived next door to horrible neighbors, and I agree, it makes you so mad and you feel so violated. In our last home that we bought, the 8 year old neighbor boy decided to take up drumming. He drummed for 2 hours every day when I got home from work, and it was horrible. I cried and cried. I cried to his mom. She didn't listen. Finally they put carpet on the walls of their garage to absorb the sound, but it didn't help.

The first home we bought had a dog next door that barked ALL DAY. We asked the neighbors to do something about it, and instead they called the police on our dogs, who don't bark at all.

Bad neighbors are a nightmare. They infringe upon your "you" time. I agree with your other posters in that you do need to do something about this. Do everything that you can do. Please be safe though. In our first apartment, I complained to the drunk man next door who sounds like Carl, and I was afraid to be by myself at home, because he threatened to beat my husband up. So be safe, but do all that you can do so that you can claim your home as your own.

I am so sorry. Your post really struck a cord with me. I hope that this gets better for you quickly.

Pre-Heated Oven said...

Oh, I would be so pissed!
I hope he gets kicked out. What a loser. Hopefully more people will complain so the landlords really take it seriously.

S.I.F. said...

I want to kick Carl in the shin! Not cool at all, and the landlords need to boot him ASAP!

Glenn and Brittany said...

OMG I can totally relate. When we lived in Tampa, we had the worst neighbors to the left us. Our bedroom wall backed up to their living room and they were always fighting, yelling and just loud in general. He would blast music and the TV as well. We knew his name was Alvin bc she was always screaming "I'm tired of your shit Alvin!" Then she would slam the door and walk around the complex with her suitcase dragging behind her, asking people to borrow their cell phone so she could call someone to come and get her. Sad, I know, however still very irritating when its going on at 5am and then the cops are there banging on the door - asking him to come out so they can ask him a few questions.. Oh the joys of sharing a wall..

I don't like that your guy has a puppy though that he keeps locked up :( That makes me very sad!