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Sunday, April 11, 2010

wonderful weekend

No, your eyes aren't playing tricks on you. I did have a wonderful weekend, and I did go to the baby shower.

Even though my BIL and SIL offered me a ride to the shower, I politely declined at the last minute. The last thing I needed was to be trapped with no transportation. I wanted a way to escape if I felt like emotions were getting the best of me.

I popped an extra Lexapro but arrived at the shower still feeling antsy. So when I walked in and was offered a mimosa, I quickly accepted. Between the two mimosas and chatting with my SIL, both helped put my nerves at ease.

There were no tears and only two awkward moments. The first came when one of the shower organizers announced that, instead of playing games (which I was dreading), we were going to fill out advice cards for the mom-to-be. What could possibly be more awkward than that?! I wanted to look toward the sky and ask God if he was trying to torture me. I wanted to take the blank card and put it right back in the pile. Instead, I wrote something like this:

"When your baby is fussy and you are having a bad day, take 5 minutes, then dry your tears and smile. Because the worst day with your baby is better than any day without him."

The second awkward moment came during the gift opening. I can't remember what gift it was, but something triggered the waterworks. It was toward the end and I was getting restless. I could really feel my eyes getting heavy and I knew that I could start crying at any moment. My MIL caught me. And without missing a beat, she quietly whispered in my ear about how excited she was that I was going back to school, and she asked me a question about the program. We whispered back and forth for a minute, and before I knew it, the moment had passed.

After the shower, I found out that my MIL had called Joey beforehand to make sure I would be okay to go. She even warned him about the advice cards (unfortunately he didn't have a chance to warn me).

I credit you ladies, alcohol, Lexapro, my SIL, and my MIL for getting me through those two hours. I credit my husband for having faith in me. But I credit myself, too. I wasn't sure if I could do it, and I did. I'm not only happy for the mom-to-be, but I'm also extremely proud of myself. I made it.

31 comments:

Jessica said...

I am proud of you too!! Glad you made it through and I hope the next time you go to a baby shower...its YOURS!!

Trisha said...

congrats! you did wonderful!

Kandid Kelli said...

I knew you could do it, youre such a strong woman

Arlyne said...

You did a superb job & handled it with grace, as you always do! :) I'm so glad it was not as bad as you envisioned!

Jen said...

I'm glad you had a good weekend! I went to a shower last year and the advice card was there too. I completely ignored it and acted as if the cards were not even there. The advice you gave was great!

Ashley said...

I am so proud of you too! I'm glad you have such amazing people around you to give you support. And I love what you wrote on the adivce card. So true!

Glass Case of Emotion said...

I am proud of you too, I might not have been able to do it...you are strong!

S.I.F. said...

I didn't fill out the advice card at my last baby shower. I couldn't bring myself to do it. You answer was amazing!

Bean stalk ballads said...

Katie. I couldnt be prouder you amazing woman. I am so PROUD that you got through that baby shower, and with panache to spare. Hugs.

2catdaughters said...

I am so proud of you, Katie! I knew you could do it!

AplusB said...

So glad you made it through and I love the advice that you wrote. So lovely. And, there's nothing wrong with a couple mimosas to dull the pain a bit :) You are amazing.

Rebecca said...

Wonderful on all accounts! :)

Just Me...C said...

Yayyyy! I am so happy to hear that you not only survived it, but you were actually quite wonderful throughout the entire thing. You gave great advice, you have an amazing family, and you have to believe that your time is right around the corner. Hugs!

Marla.z said...

You're right. When I first read your title, I was thinking, Oh no, Katie's being sarcastic. Glad to hear that things didn't go as badly as you were expecting. Thank God!

Rach said...

So glad you got that behind you and that it went smooth.

Kim said...

Way to go Katie!!! I am proud of you, and how kind of your MIL to notice and distract. That was very sweet of her!!!

Dawn said...

Great news! Your family sounds pretty great. I'm glad you were able to make it!

Maureen said...

Way to go honey! I'm quite impressed with your ability to participate in the advice cards and what good advice it was. Glad you had a good weekend.

Littlest True Blue said...

So proud that you did it! You are a star, so strong! glad you had a great weekend! you deserve it!
LTB

someday-soon said...

Good job, you did great!!! Happy you had a good weekend (even with the shower) and that your SIL and MIL were supportive =)

Rachel said...

You did it!! That's wonderful! :)

DC Running Mama said...

Just found your blog...we have male factor IF (97% abnormal morphology) and are working on baby #2 after conceiving baby #1 through IVF 18 months ago.

You did a wonderful job making it through the baby shower, but you don't have to go to these things if you don't want to. I avoided babyshowers, pregnant friends, other people trying to get pregnant the first time we were TTC/struggling with IF. It made us have a somewhat limited social life, but I was happier because of it.

Katie said...

Yay! I'm so happy you got through and WTG to you MIL for knowing what you needed at that exact moment! And I love what you wrote on the card!! :-)

The Millers said...

Oh I am so glad that it went smoothly. It sounds like you have a pretty sincere and caring MIL. Oh, and your advice...may the be the best I have ever heard.

ifcrossroads said...

You gave the most perfect advice to the mom-to-be that only an Infertile could ever understand. I'm proud of you Katie. You're an amazing person.

Amanda said...

Good job Katie! Those stupid showers are the worst!!
Sounds like you made it through like a champ!

suchagoodegg said...

Good work, Katie. I'm proud of you and so happy you survived without too much pain.

I think your advice card is surely the best of the entire bunch.

Erin said...

I'm so glad you got through the shower ok! :)

The Baby Race said...

You are amazing!!! I am so proud of you! I would never have had the grace to handle that as well as you did. Seriously, you're amazing!

nicolemarie said...

I'm so happy you were able to have a good weekend :) YAY!

erika said...

You did amazing! I am so glad this weekend has passed relatively easy, and that it's all behind you!
Much love your ways!