Wednesday, February 17, 2010

backtracking

In the tornado of activity over the last few days stemming from the second SA results, there are a few things I haven’t mentioned:

My LAP is *officially* scheduled for next Thursday, February 25 at 9:45 am. My pre-op appointment is the morning before, from 8 to 11. My friend Mic over at IF Crossroads has gone above and beyond to help answer all of my weird and even some embarrassing questions about what to expect before, during, and after surgery. She even sent me a recommended shopping list! I don’t know how I could ever thank her for being so kind and supportive. I appreciate her SO much.

The closing date of March 1 is looking less and less achievable. I’m trying to stay positive, but I would be really shocked if it we hit that day.

Thank you, Kelly, for nominating me for a blog award! I promise I will post on the ten things I love later today. :)

I still have not received the results of my MRI, and it’s now been over a week. So yesterday I called to see what was up. The receptionist said that both the doctor and nurse were out of the office this afternoon, but that my results had arrived from the hospital early last week. When I asked why I hadn’t been contacted yet, her response was: "It's not our responsibility to call you and tell you the results. It's your responsibility to call and schedule a follow up." Um, so my response was: “So you’re saying if there was something seriously wrong--say I had cancer--you would still want ME to call for the results?” She got super snippy with me and told me she would have the nurse return my call today. I can’t wait to talk to this nurse and tell her about the woman’s behavior. It was horrible.

And last but not least, my aunt. I’ve wanted to write a whole post about this, but I really didn’t have the right words to say. My aunt has been feeling sick the past couple of months. She, my uncle, and my two cousins live in the mountains of North Carolina, so they don’t exactly have the best medical facilities. Regardless, she went to several hospitals and had many tests run, with no conclusive results as to why she was feeling bad.

Last week, her son from a previous marriage got married in California. She was feeling bad, but there was no way she would miss her son’s wedding. When she returned home, the pain was so unbearable, she had to call 911. When they took her to the hospital, she had a massive heart attack. Apparently, she’s been having mild heart attacks for weeks and didn’t know. On Saturday night while I was at a good friend’s wedding, they performed “emergency” heart surgery (quadruple bypass) after she became increasingly unstable.

I’m happy to say that after a few very scary days, she’s doing much better. They were able to take her off of the breathing tube yesterday. She’s only 45 and still not out of the woods yet, but it was hard for all of us to imagine her youngest child, my 13-year-old cousin, going through her teenage years without a mother.

Thinking about my aunt over the past few days has put things into perspective. I’m still here. Joey’s still here. We’re healthy and happy, and, for the most part, everything is going well in our lives. It’s just that one little thing that eludes us. I hope it’s waiting for us at the end of the road. But until then, I’m trying my very best to be focused on what I do have.

21 comments:

Katie said...

What a horrible receptionist! You should def file some kind of official complaint about her!

I'm so sorry about your aunt but glad to hear she's doing better. sending you lots of (((hugs)))!

Crossed Fingers said...

I hope your LAP goes well and you get the desired results from it.

People like the woman you dealt with shouldn't be in that line of work if they have attitudes like that. I hope they say something to her. I also want to hear what your results were as well. Hopefully you update us!

I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt, I'm just thankful they finally figured out what was going on and were able to help her. I hope she continues to mend quickly and is able to come home soon.

Noelle said...

I wanted to give you the link to my LAP experience. Here it is : http://thedesireofmyheart-noelle.blogspot.com/2009/10/my-entire-laparoscopy-experience.html

It is very long but very detailed.

I think you should report that women. She sounds horrible and shouldn't be dealing with patients.

I am so sorry about your aunt. It is good to hear that she is doing better.

I am happy to see your optimism. I do have to say that I think you will have a baby before the end of the road. I don't think you are going to have to wait until it is the end of the road. I normally don't say things like that, but it is just a feeling that I have.

I am excited for your LAP!

Noelle said...

One more thing...I just reread my LAP post and I am very whiney and pathetic in it. Just so you know :)

Al said...

Oh man, Katie, you have so much going on right now and so much stress to deal with. Buying a house, IF, sick aunt, and the MRI run around is just the freaking cherry on top. I think you're handling everything you've got going beautifully and you're a saint for not cussing out the rude receptionist.

I hope you get some great information from the lap and a plan from the RE. I also hope that your Aunt continues to improve. Will be keeping you in my T&P.

(((HUGS)))

Rebecca said...

Wow, how scary about your aunt!! I'm so glad she's doing better. That's just so young and scary to hear about. I can't believe that she went to all sorts of hospitals and they couldn't tell she was having small heart attacks!! That is really scary.

Wishing you all sorts of luck with your LAP and hoping that the woman at the doctor's office gets knocked over the head. Sheesh.

Jen said...

I'm so glad to hear your aunt is doing better. You have so much on your plate right now, I can't imagine. I hope the LAP goes as smoothly as it can!

Jin said...

You've got a ton on your plate! I hope y'all make it with the closing on march 1st and dont get jacked around with different closing dates/times like we did. It was crazy. Glad your aunt is doing better!

erika said...

I am horribly sorry about your aunt. I am glad to hear she is getting better and I am hoping her recovery will be smooth and fast.

As for the receptionist, she totally deserves to be disciplined, be sure to complain the next time you talk to them. Unbelievable!
FX for an easy LAP procedure for you and for very fast recovery!

Basic Girl said...

That's so awful about your Aunt, but I'm so happy she's doing better. She's in my thoughts. And so are you, you totally deserve a break here soon, you have so much going on! Hang in there, and hoping the LAP goes well!!!

Kandid Kelli said...

Praise God! I am so glad to hear your aunt is doing better! Will keep her in my prayers though. LAP is soo soon!! woohoo!

I hope you get posotive results from your MRI

xo
K

Bean stalk ballads said...

Hugs honey... thats really no good about your aunt, and bugger that receptionist... if they want to to ring in thats fine but they need to communicate that to you first I think. Its only fair!

pandadiaries said...

I hope that surgery works out for you. I'm sorry to hear about your aunt, I hope she continues to improve!

katery said...

good luck with your lap. as a stage III endo sufferer myself i am living proof that there IS hope for us. i had a lap in november of '08 then i was suppressed with lupron for three months, got pregnant on my second iui after i started cycling again and just gave birth a few weeks ago. it will happen for you too!!!

Kelly said...

I'm so glad that your aunt is doing better. Things like that help to remind us of the basic things, as you said.

I'm sorry it doesn't sound like your closing date will work out. When is the new target date?

And yes, you take care of that receptionist tomorrow!!

JC said...

I'm so glad your Aunt is doing better. That must be so scary, and she is so young. I hope she continues to recover and is well again really soon.

As for the receptionist, what a who#$! I can't believe that.

And I'm wishing you lots of luck with your lap. I hope it goes well and you recover quickly. =)

Carrie said...

Wow! You have been dealing with so much lately! I am thinking of you and hope your LAP goes smoothly. I am also thinking of your family right now! Huge ((((HUGS))))!

Dawn said...

Thank goodness your aunt is feeling better! I hope she has a speedy recovery.

I hope your LAP goes well and you get great results!

I'm sorry to hear that your house closing may be delayed! How frustrating when you already have so many other things to worry about!

Erin said...

I hope your lap goes smoothly. I really didn't think it was that bad.

I will say some prayers for your aunt!

Leslie said...

I hope that your LAP goes well and that it will help with answers on how best to move forward.

I can not believe that the receptionist actually said that to you. I would definitely let your dr know as there is no excuse for that!! Sounds like she needs a refresher course on how to treat others!

I am sorry to hear about your Aunt but am very happy to hear she is doing better.

Tina said...

Katie, you are having to go through so much right now. I am so sorry that it is all piling up on your plate.

It really sucks that you were not contacted by the doctor's office and that the receptionist just acted so terribly when you called about it.

It sucks that a medical emergency can put things into perspective. I am so glad to hear that your aunt is doing better.

I just wanted to let you know that I have a real life friend whose husband had sperm issues (low counts and morphology - sp?) and she had her own IF issues. They did one round of IFV and 9 months later they had triplet daughters. I know its expensive and not all IVF stories have such happy endings, but its always good to hear the good ones!