I promised this post was coming. It's not going to be nice. (If you want a nice version of this post, please visit my dear friend Kelly's blog.)
A few months ago, I decided to allow anonymous commenting. I'm an open book (as you can tell from reading my blog posts) and I thought it would be nice to give other people the opportunity to be open with me who might not want to reveal their identity.
I want to remind people that despite the fact that you can't see me, I am real. I am a real person and I have feelings. This means that when you leave a comment on my blog and it's mean, my feelings get hurt. But it's happened several times in the last few weeks, and now I've become angry. Frankly, I don't really give a shit if you don't think I'm a good writer. I didn't start this blog for you and I won't change my writing for you, either. I DOUBLE don't give a shit if you think I whine a lot. Guess what? Infertility sucks. Unless you go through it yourself, you have no room to talk. If you have gone through or are going through infertility, then you probably have whined once or twice about your own inability to have children. Therefore, I have no idea why you are hating on me. It's my party and I'll cry if I want to.
This blog is supposed to be a way for me to vent my feelings / beliefs / fears / hopes / dreams / nightmares about this process. It is supposed to connect me with other members of the IF community so we can support and lean on one another. It is not mean for us to criticize each other.
If you leave me a nasty comment, I will delete it. Don't think you are better than everyone else because you can hide behind your curtain. You aren't better than everyone else: you're a coward. I'm not going to engage you, I'm just going to get rid of you. And if it continues to be an issue, I'll make it impossible for you to insert your very lousy two cents.
We need to be kind. We need to treat each other fairly and with compassion. Being infertile should mean sensitivity. If you can't grasp that by now, then you're just plain stupid (and you can't fix stupid). If you aren't infertile? Then try walking a day in one of our shoes. I'm going to guess you wouldn't make it.