Sunday, November 8, 2009

there's beauty in the breakdown

My IPS are virtually gone and in it's place are AF cramps, pre-AF breakouts, and my desire to choke everyone that looks at me the wrong way. As a result, I broke down yesterday. Though the breakdown itself was about infertility, it was sparked by my hairdresser.

My "usual" hairdresser left the company, so I had no choice but to try someone new. This didn't bother me because I knew I would still get a good haircut. The company has a very good reputation, and they are very nice people. I was looking forward to a relaxing morning of having someone else wash and style my hair.

I walked back to meet my new girl, and took my hair out of my ponytail, she gasped and said:

"Oh, your hair looks awful!"

Strike 1.

She went on to tell me everything I was doing wrong with my hair: not using super expensive shampoo and conditioner, not using the right product, not using the right brush. She babbled ON and ON all the way through the wash and walk back to the chair.

When we got back to the chair, she said, "Oh, I have to move this chair further inside my station. One of my coworkers used it yesterday and she's NINE months pregnant! Can you believe that?"

Me: "Wow, no. Unbelievable."
Me (thinking to myself): "Un-f***ing-believable."

She proceeded to drone on for about ten minutes about her pregnant coworker and her super cute belly and how she was ready to pop. 

Strike 2.

By this time, my stomach was wound up so tight, I didn't know if I was going to vomit or cry.

After she wrapped up her love affair with the pregnant coworker, she went back to talking about my shitty hair. The rest of the time was like an hour-long infomercial for everything I should buy to make my hair "shiny and more manageable" (no joke).

Strike 3.

When I got in the car, I burst into tears. I cried hysterically the entire way home. When I got home, I threw myself on the floor next to my doggy and cried some more. This is where my mom found me when she got home. All I could spit out was:

"I can't beg God for something that he so clearly does not want me to have. I'm losing it."


JC said...

I'm so sorry! That would make me break down too. Doesn't she realize EVERYONE has shitty hair when they walk INTO a hairdresser. I purposely don't wash my hair for 2 days b/c I don't give a shit and she's the one who washes it and cuts/styles it and makes it look all better. What a rude person. I buy my product at the grocery store too. Just what we need, spend $40 on shampoo from the hairdresser on top of our IF treatments. I hope today is much better! ((hugs))

Kelly said...

Wow. I'm so, so sorry for so many reasons.

Primarily though, the hair woman could have acted with more class and tact, rather than making you feel shitting. It would be perfectly understandable if you a. complained and b. found somewhere else to go!

I hope today is better for you. (((HUGS)))

Kelly said...

I wish there were more I could offer you. I don't know what to say, and that's why my last post was pretty much about the hair experience. I hate to say, "it will happen" because I hate when people say that to me. It makes me even more mad and I can you know that? I don't know what to say about the God comment either. I'm sure most people would say "he has a plan" but hey...why does your plan (and mine plan, and the plan of so many others) have to be so agonizingly painful??

(((HUGS))) I hope today is better. I'm so sorry you have to go through any of this.

Kelli-Sue said...

Wow. Katie I am so sorry your "relaxing" experience was the exact opposite. :( I wish I had some words of encouragement. All I can say is I hope you have a wonderful week ahead of you and that things start to go your way :). I know that I have never been in your shoes so I can't say I know how you feel but If you ever need someone (I know you have tons of ppl already) to talk to feel free to ask.

**Heres to a BRIGHT, BEAUTIFUL & HAPPY Week ahead**

ps- I would totally find a new salon... :) If you are anywhere near Oviedo I can give you the # for my salon. ALL the ladies there are such sweethearts and all in their mid20-early30s Its a great atmosphere.

A said...

Geez. While I also don't appreciate how any salon person does not approve of shampoo you can get for less than $16 per bottle, I can't believe that she would go on and on about it!!! Usually, mine just says "I can show you the shampoo that I used on you today" etc. That woudl have put me over the edge, too, except I'm not sure I would have held it together until I reached my car, so good job on that account!!

Like a pp said, I'm sorry that your relaxing treat turned out to be NOT that. I'd probably look into another salon, too! Especially since you have no allegiance to the other lady! Ha!

I will pray that this week is a week of new hope for you. I can only hope that the urge to choke people who look at you the wrong way is a pregnancy effect....?

ifcrossroads said...

Holy crap! What was supposed to be a nice relaxing morning at the salon turned into hell. I'm so sorry Katie. That sucks! This new hairdresser needs a lesson in manners. You've never met before and she's droning on and on about the condition of your hair? WTF? She doesn't know you! She should be polite and FIX your hair and then next time make some subtle suggestions if it's warranted.
I'm so so so sorry! I hope today is better for you.

2catdaughters said...

Katie, I am soooo sorry!!! That hairdresser is an unprofessional, empty-headed moron. I wouldn't go back to her again.

As for the other part of your post, I'm with Kelly and I'll never tell someone "it'll happen" or "you WILL be mother, I know it," because I HATE when people say that to me. There's no way they could possibly know that so why lie? I also think Kelly articulated exactly what I have been trying to wrap my head around for awhile now--if this is God's plan for us, why does ours have to be so incredibly painful?

I hope you had a better day today. (((hugs)))

A baby for Al? said...

I hate it when hairdressers say crap like that. Obviously it's going to look like crap when you go in because it's her JOB to make it look better and NOT to make you feel worse.

I hope you're feeling better today. **hugs**

Tina said...

Ugh, how frustrating. Some people just don't get it.

I really hope you are able to find a better hairdresser. Not only is getting a good hair cut important but it really is all about having a good experience!

Thinking of you!

Katie said...

UGH! Triple BAM (right in the face) to that dumb b.itch of a hairdresser!

I'm so sorry that an idiot like that had to mess up your weekend!

((giant hugs))

btw--I also agree with everything you wrote in your previous post about "what the world is coming to." Un-be-liev-able.

Jen said...

I can't imagine a hairdresser saying that!!! They are supposed to flatter you so you like them and keep going back! Does she think insulting you will help her business??!! That sucks!